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a week and half ago, this girl came into the store. I immediately picked up her fragrance and told her thats Polo. She got flattered and was like no, its something else and said it does parallel Polo. 2 days later, she came back and was soaked with Polo. I gave her the "not intersted" attitude and processed her and act like I did not notice it. 2 more days passed and she came back but with a very thin faint and I told her she wasn't wearing any Polo and she disagreed and showed me her hand to smell. I had like a thrill smelling it from the counter. We talked for awhile about what shes doing (lifeguard) and which school shes planning to go to (Hunter) for pre-med to which I mentioned (purposely) about me going to Kingsborough for Pre-clinical nursing and she ended it with "nice talking to you." Yesterday's morning, she came by and I was in a rush to ask her out to my friend, James who plays in the city (plan was to get her to come with me to watch his show) but she quickly left and I said "hey" and she turned around and I asked " what are you doing tonight" and she said "I do not get off work until 10" and me trying to recover myself said " yeah (sarcastically), that late? and she said she got to watch a pool after the beach but she said "I'll see you tomorrow" so my spot was blown cause I waited for like a good 10 sec before saying that. She did not come by but I know she'll come by next week.
Advice needed: How do I make the suttle approach the next time I see her, since now, she knows my intentions?
How to get an answer if she is availible without putting her on the spot like Do you have a boyfriend?
If I said that, I would come off as a stalker since I only saw her a week and a half ago. I am trying to court her, not play games. As a good "woman" friend told me "when it comes to girls, show interest, they run. Don't show interest, they come to you."
Originally posted by EIN
... 2 days later, she came back and was soaked with Polo. I gave her the "not intersted" attitude and processed her and act like I did not notice it. 2 more days passed and she came back but with a very thin faint and I told her she wasn't wearing any Polo and she disagreed and showed me her hand to smell.
You played the little game of showing her you weren't interested, and it worked because she came back. SHE CAME BACK and that means she is interested, and now it's your turn to show her you are interested. The game playing should end at this point and honesty should begin the next step of forming a friendship/relationship.
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I'm not 40. I'm $39.95 plus shipping and handling.
Your question was : Advice needed: How do I make the suttle approach the next time I see her, since now, she knows my intentions?
How to get an answer if she is availible without putting her on the spot like Do you have a boyfriend?
Well since you started out with games you will have to suck up and be honest this time.
Just ask her if she would like to go to the movies . If she says no she can't or has a bf that should come out quite soon.
Or she could mess with your head the way you did her and tell you * sure * and then later flake on you,.
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