[Chewybrwn]

so its pretty simple:

I went back home to vegas for a few days to visit..and on a night I was chillin with my best friend katie and my three amigos two of them left and my favorite out of the three asks if he could crash. so, katie, her boyfriend, me and my amigo kevin played drinking games.

by the time we were all completely plastered, katie and her bf went to bed, leaving me and kevin to hang. after about 5 minutes of watching tv...and sitting very close to each... we evenutally got all touchy feeling, long story short, we had sex.

Last person in the world i'd thought i'd sleep with. the next moring was awkward and i was in a state of shock, eventhough he acted as if everythig was normal. He even took us out to breakfast.

so here i am back in cali, in my normal routine..and i cant stop thinking about him. im confused and dont even know if i have feelings for him. its been 5 days and we still havent talked about it yet. and i dont know how he's feeling about it all. he's such a cool guy and i dont want to lose a friendship over this, but i dont know if id want to pursue more if i could. should i give to more time?....i still feel like im not thinking straight.

i just need input from anyone. any kind of good advice would be great and appreciated.

[Mr.positive]

Just act like everything is normal and see what happens.

[Neptune]

While you are stressing over your friendship with him he is rejoicing because his "friendship" with you has finally paid off. He finally got what he was in it for in the first place!

[kitkat826]

Wow, Neptune...

I love being reminded of the true man side of things...where has this site been all my life?!?!!

[Zephyr45]

I was gonna comment on Neptune's insightful wisdom earlier but figured I'd let some others bite first with some surely colorful remarks.

I have to say there's a friggin good deal of truth in that statement (most likely - we don't really know the guy), but I'm not sure that spells anything disasterous for ya kitkat...

I'd say let things be normal if you can handle it and see how your feelings develop. I'm not a woman but I'd imagine that if you let yourself settle down you might realize why you weren't dating the guy to begin with and that will let things fall in place. If for some reason you decide you want more, it wouldn't hurt to approach him with that proposition but I'd do it slowly and basically how you would if you never had sex. In other words, don't be all freaked-out like you are at the moment. Good luck.

[Cecelius]

He may not have been waiting around all this time just for that. It may just be something that happened and he doesn't care at all. Most men, frankly, if given the opportunity (Hotel room? Check. Female Friend who's hot enough? Check. Booze? Check.)

1. Some dudes will hang around just to get lucky.
2. Most dudes will take it if it's offered up.
3. A few dudes are in love with you. Only time will tell.

If he's 1 or 2, then sleeping with him may or may not change his opinion of you. If he's a 3, then watch out.