[Jolene]

After preganancy and childbirth, how did you (to the guys) or how did your husband (to the gals) handle the fact that the mother's body is not the same and may never be again. Specifically, as it relates to the obvious weight gain that is usually temporary but significant for up to a one year period.

I have one child and I am actually even smaller now than I was prior to having a child, but I was not married and did not have to worry about how big I got during the pregnancy. I tried to maintain as much control over it as I could, but still...it happened. When I look back at how big I got, I shudder to think it could happen like that again with my fiancé when we have another child.

I think all men like to make you believe it doesn't matter, but at least half of them are revolted at the thought of the weight gain. Am I wrong?