[butterfly29]

If you signed up to this forum several months ago and have been posting regularly ever since. Especially if you're going through a breakup. Go to your own profile and read the history of all your posts. The questions you asked and advices you gave to others. See the line of your thinking before and after.

[Fallen_Angel]

You're absolutely right, butterfly, especially seeing as I feel so comfortable spouting out advice I REALLY should follow myself!!!

[strangelove]

You can also keep track of what happens with your ex how they act. How the respond to certain stimuli etc..

In my case going back to the first post, my ex has talked to me in months. Then she appears again. Then its contact, no contact, ok shes gone forever, no shes back.
And now another long period of no contact..hopefully history or this cycle repeats itself on its on without any stimuli.....

So what have u learned from going back on all your old posts Butterfly??

[butterfly29]

Originally posted by dr strangelove
So what have u learned from going back on all your old posts Butterfly??

Oh crap!

I even forgot I've had them! When I first signed up to LS, I came here and bitched about my exboyfriend not proposing to me. That was months ago. When I read them, I got to see myself and how I sounded from another perspective. I was reminded how desperate I was when I was with him, put my life on hold for him. Obandon my friends, things I like to do for myself. It was all about him, his family, what he likes and enjoys. I have to confess, I feel a bit embarassed for myself and things I wrote. Just to think, months ago I was so scared of losing him, I'd go to any extent to keep him in my life. How my life, my job, pretty much anything seemed so meaningless without him. So blindly convinced that if he decides to marry me, everything will be just fine. And that was a good example of an intelligent and otherwise quite independent woman going completely insane over a guy.

And now I've learned one more time, that sometimes when you're really affraid of something to happen, perhaps that very thing has to happen to you. I'm sure many people on this forum saw how angry I was with my ex for what he did to me. And part of me still is. Hard to let go of that. But I have to say one thing, my life has a new meaning now. I was imprisoned by this fear, desperation and unsatisfied desires of things that in reality weren't good for me. And now I'm free. I am glad it happened, although part of me wishes it didn't. He did it to me because I could have never be able to do that myself. I could never bring myself up to breaking up with him even though I knew it would be the right thing to do.

[Mr.positive]

Interesting.
I'll check that out.

[smile95]

You're absolutely right, butterfly, especially seeing as I feel so comfortable spouting out advice I REALLY should follow myself!!!

me too!



That is scary to read my past posts! For a yr, I asked the same thing! ugh