not very approachable?

dgiirl · 15th August 2005, 11:38 PM

My stbxh often complains I’m a very cold and distant person and that I’m not very approachable. Anyone have any advice on how to be more "approachable"?

Jayhawks · 15th August 2005, 11:50 PM

SMILE...........................SMILE............. ............SMILE.

Pyro · 16th August 2005, 1:07 AM

Smile, make good eye contact when talking, and don't be afraid to be the one to start a conversation.

dgiirl · 16th August 2005, 4:29 PM

Does this still apply when you're pissed off at someone who's divorcing you?

How do you be approachable when he's breaking your heart? How do you keep open communication when he only emails you and will not open up himself?

alphamale · 16th August 2005, 4:31 PM

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Originally posted by dgiirl
Anyone have any advice on how to be more "approachable"?

yeah, get away from your stbxh

dgiirl · 16th August 2005, 4:37 PM

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Originally posted by alphamale
yeah, get away from your stbxh

lol alpha... i mean with HIM, my stbxh

Pyro · 17th August 2005, 2:15 AM

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Originally posted by dgiirl
Does this still apply when you're pissed off at someone who's divorcing you?

How do you be approachable when he's breaking your heart? How do you keep open communication when he only emails you and will not open up himself?

Do you really want to be more approachable with someone who breaks your heart and will not open himself up?

Don't subject yourself to that dgiirl.

If you still want to communicate with him, then do what was mentioned above, smile, make eye contact, and start conversations. You can only do so much. If he still chooses to break your heart and not open up to you, then quit wasting your time. IMHO.

Good luck.

dgiirl · 17th August 2005, 11:39 AM

I'm just trying to keep the communication open. I've noticed that the few times I am around him, I dont make eye contact. I always go in with the intention to do so, but when it comes to doing it, I realize after the fact I didnt. Right now we're on civil amicable terms, but the divorce is still going through and I dont want to give up hope, but I'm starting too. We rarely talk to each other, and usually something about the settlement. I cant exactly just call him up and start asking him how his day was as if we were friends.

Thanks for the advice guys