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Old 10th August 2005, 4:32 AM   #1
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First time seeing eachother as boyfriend and girlfriend...Im am sooo SCARED!!!

Okay so Thursday... Im going to his house. I haven't seen him for an entire month, and im going to his house! We've only ever seen eachother at school (im 16 if anyones wondering) .. and we'd hang out during spares, sat beside eachother in class and stuff... and we both liked eachother... but we're both really shy! So school ended.. and we've been keeping in touch over the internet.. like big time... like at least 3 -4 hours a day talking to eachother! It's unhealthy i know... and we've said i love u to eachother...and meant it.. So we've been actually going out since a few days ago ( i thought it owuld be easier if we were going out when i saw him again.. cuz there might be less pressure about what is aloud and whats not ) We've been planning to get together all summer, but plans kept getting screwed up and pushed aside.. so now theres so much anticipation until the next time we see eachother... because we've never even hugged or anything liek that. So theres alot of pressure. And he keeps saying he's gunna be nervous and have nothing to say.. cuz he's shy and.. him saying he'll be nervous is making ME nervous as well.. this is going to be so hard! Another thing, hes never had a real serious girlfriend before. I dont know if he's even in to cuddling and all that stuff... because he might not of even done that! I'm afraid I'll try something... and he'll back away... hell i'd be glad to even get the courage up to try something... He wont make a first move HES SHY and unexperienced... Im afraid!.. Too much is expected... what if nothing happens... what if I go to his house and we just hang out like any two ordinary friends would... or even worse, what if we barely talk and theres awkward silences and such.. I dont know... We've liked eachother for... 3 and a half months... so its all leading up to this day when we finally get together and see eachother for the first time as.... well... together? IT feels like its gunna be the hardest moment I'm going to have to face! I just need some kind of support here.. any small bit of advice could help.. Thankz

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Old 10th August 2005, 10:13 AM   #2
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Sounds to me like you're not really gf & bf yet if you haven't even hugged yet.. but don't worry about it, it will all come naturally. If you've already had several-hour chats you'll manage to get along just fine. Just enjoy yourself, it'll be fine! Have fun!!
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Old 10th August 2005, 1:08 PM   #3
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when i talk to girls the first thing that happens is my heart jumps, but then after a while i calm down and it becomes normal.

if it were ME (I dont know if this is a good idea though) and i were in a situation like yours, and i knew the girl really liked me, id kiss her the first second i see her.

i mean, why WOULDNT she want to kiss me if she really likes me.

if you just sit there with the "awkward moment of silence" it might seem kind of weird. but a kiss or whatever would make the "just sitting there" a lot less awkward.

sort of like an amusment park, when you go on the scariest ride first, all the other rides seem a lot less scary.

i dont know though.
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