[StillHurtin]

I was sending H a site I found interesting for him to read. I went through his Outlook Express to send it.
When I got there I found this email in his inbox!
PLZ someone help me! I only seen H's email addy on the address, no other emails were there.

Here is what it said:


Subject: Hello My Friend


Hi !!
How are you? I am very glad that you write to me and likes my profile
that I put in the internet. Well of course I am interested in knowing you,
and hope send me the photos. Well about me, as you can see I am a very nice
girl and of course a lady. Well and tell me more about you? Well hope you
write me back again! see you and have a very nice day! I shall wait for
your letter. Please email to me (her email addy was here).
Anna


Could this be just spam? I don't know WTF to think you guys! He had an A once, what is going to stop him again!?!? He has chatted and emailed w/ other women in the past but hasn't done it in years and now this *****? I don't know what to f@ckin think about this?

He is at his softball game right now so I can't talk to him abou it. Do I email this gal back and tell her that he is a married man and if she is still interested then go for it (I will D him!) or just to warn her he is a married man and if she doesn't want to deal w/ that she wont want to contact him again. I'm so upset right now you guys. I feel like the A is happening all over again. I can't stop crying.
And here I was starting to trust him again and now this *****! Lately I have been using his computer b/c it's in the LR and I can see the tv from his computer, I can't from mine. Plus my right click on my mouse doesn't work right and so it's a PITA to use it so I use his. He gets annoyed when I use it. He ask me why I am using it, stop using his search engines for my sites, crap like that. I was downloading emails for him once to get rid of the junk and he asked me why I was on his email. He seemed uncomfortable about it.

Plz help me, I don't know what to do.

[A Fly onThe Wall]

It's SPAM .. Right click on it and go to properties and look at the details.. If it is spam the e-mail addys and reply to most likely will look funny or have conflicting addys

I get like 5 a day at my work e-mail just like that

[izzybelle]

it most definitely could be spam. i also get several almost every day, all supposedly from women, along with emails about how to increase the size of parts i don't have.

at the same time, i completely understand your concern. i had joined an on-line dating site for a while and also got emails similar to that from there. but the language and such in the email you quoted sound more like the spam variety. but just to ease your mind, it's worth asking him about.

i'm sure it will all turn out to be nothing, but after what you've been through, i don't blame you for worrying.

[StillHurtin]

Thanks for the quick replies. I hope it's SPAM. I don't know what I will do if it's not. I just feel like emailing her and pretending it's H and have her reply back and see what she says.

Fly, I went to details. I copied them and going to paste it here for you to look at. I took out H's email addy though for his privacy.

Here it is:

Return-Path: <hdonu@susannelavender.multnomah.or.us>
Received: from [67.189.84.48] by ispmxmta02-srv.alltel.net with ESMTP
id <20050809063508.UAPA2892.ispmxmta02-srv.alltel.net@[67.189.84.48]>
for <H's email >; Tue, 9 Aug 2005 01:35:08 -0500
Received: from unknown (HELO localhost) (127.0.0.1)
by localhost.ry.com with SMTP; Tue, 9 Aug 2005 09:39:40 +0000
Received: from 246.40.129.123 (246.40.129.123[246.40.129.123])
by 67.189.84.48 (IMP) with HTTP
for <H's email>; Tue, 9 Aug 2005 09:39:40 +0000
Message-ID: <7436121123580380@67.189.84.48>
From: "Anna" <hdonu@susannelavender.multnomah.or.us>
To: "H's email " <H's email>
Subject: Hello my friend
Date: Tue, 9 Aug 2005 09:39:40 +0000
MIME-Version: 1.0
Content-Type: text/html; charset="iso-8859-1"
Content-Transfer-Encoding: 8bit
User-Agent: Internet Messaging Program (IMP) 3.2.2
X-Originating-IP: 246.40.129.123

[A Fly onThe Wall]

It's Spam..

I was relayed (or spoofed) off of the icans ip adresses...They are for special Ican use and not mail ...Spam

the user does have valid e-mail account though .. You might want to remove it

Also look at the e-mail addys her name does match who it says it is from as well as it doesn't match the e-mail addy

[StillHurtin]

Thanks Fly! H does have an anti-spam filter on his pc from Norton. Ya think it would of went in there.

I am relieved it's spam but what I don't understand is is sounds like H has contacted her by her email. Should I just block it to be safe? Should I mention something to H? Maybe I should just make a joke out of it and say something like

"Your GF, Anna emailed you." and see how he reacts?

What should I do? Just delete it and not say anything? I hate overreacting like this if it's stupid Spam! I feel like a real idiot.

Thanks!

[izzybelle]

chances are he never emailed. they're just written that way to pull someone in.

there are also a bunch of bank emails that i'm constantly getting that tell me they're responding to my request for a quote on refinanciny my mortgage. i rent so ....

if you're going to mention it to him, i probably would make it more like a joke. but from what i've seen and from what fly's said, it sounds like he had absolutely nothing to do with getting it. that's what spam does.

so take a few deep breaths ... it's all OK!!!

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Just delete it and say something to him to the effect of hey.. While I was getting the e-mail for you I noticed anna mailed you.. so I deleted it.. See what he says

[StillHurtin]

Thanks Fly and izzy. I will just delete it and jokingly tell H there was an email from this anna person and deleted it for him since it was spam and see what he says.

I feel really silly that I reacted like this w/ a stupid spam email.

Thanks again! I will let you know what he says

[StillHurtin]

H got home and I asked him about his games. I told him that I emailed him a site and I noticed an email from anna and figured it was spam so I deleted it. He said it was spam b/c he didn't know any anna. Of course he asked me why I was on his email so I told him to send that site as I was on his pc.

He said it was ok to delete it since he didn't know who that was.

Whew! Now I just feel stupid, but TGoodness it was spam.

[A Fly onThe Wall]

Not so bad ..

And now he will be on his toes and keep the lovin coming your way ..

[sylviaguardian]

SH,

When I saw your first post my heart sank. But thank goodness it's SPAM!

Sylvia

[RecordProducer]

It sounded too stupid to be true. She didn't even mention his name!
I don't know your husband, but I truly doubt that he would put his profile on a dating site then write to a woman and give her his home email address where you can find the message. It just didn't make sense overall.
When I read that he got some email from a woman, my first thought was that somebody is setting him up, perhaps the ex-OW. But apparently that's not true either.
In any case, as I figured, your marriage is good now and I think it's time for you to get past the affair, forgive him completely, trust him, love him, and enjoy his love. If he ever does it again, you'll think how to deal with the pain.
Life is full of problems; we deal with the hurt from the past, then with current issues, and if we start worrying about problems that might happen in the future, but most likely won't then our lives will be full of problems (most of them not even relevant). We have only one life and we should use it to enjoy it and be as much carefree as we can.
Just make a decision to not worry about things that haven't happened (another affair). Just make a decision to not worry about what happened in the past and you cannot change no matter what you do (the ex-affair). If the present is good, just relax and feel the beauty of life. You never know what the future brings. While you worry about one thing, worse things happen or everything is great.

[StillHurtin]

Originally posted by sylviaguardian
SH,

When I saw your first post my heart sank. But thank goodness it's SPAM!

Sylvia

Sylvia, I know, imagine my shock when I read it. I thought my world was caving in around me again. I felt like I was reliving his first A all over again. Not a good feeling. Thanks for your concern.


RP, thank you so much! You're right. What you said is so true. I appreciate what you said.

I will heed your advice. I have read your reply several times and I am trying to pound it into my head, lol.

Thanks again.

[I Survived]

Lord Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.
Courage to change the things that I can.
And the wisdom to know the difference.


That prayer keeps popping into my head.

I am a strong person capable of standing on my own.

It's great to have a man in my life to love me but I cannot allow him to give me all my value. Whenever I draw all my feelings of self-worth from another human being, I loose my SELF.