Broken Promises

InLoveIdiot85 · 7th August 2005, 5:57 PM

I recently broke two promises with my new girlfriend. These may seem minor, but she does have trust issues.

The first one, was laughing at her family's joking on her. She really hates it when they do it, and she was hurt I did it too.

The second one was, talking about me and her to a friend of mine. She doesn't like me talking about her behind her back. Well, I wasn't really talking behind her back, I was just telling my friend how crappy I treated her.

Now, because of this, she's lost all trust in me. She doesn't believe anything I say now. She talks to me like I'm a stranger. To think about how much I hurt her, it just really makes me want to die. Is there anything I can do to prove to her that I'll be honest to her and keep my promises from now on? Keep in mind we live around 50 miles apart and neither of us will be able to see each other for a month, until I get my car. She says she still loves me, but I'm afraid she'll meet another guy in the meantime and leave me.

LucreziaBorgia · 7th August 2005, 6:49 PM

Maybe she has some very severe trust issues, and they'd have to be bordering on neurosis for her to push away someone she is in love with - because generally speaking, when someone is completely invested in a relationship they find ways to work out their issues - especially when the other partner expresses interest in making amends and working it out. It doesn't sound like she's interested in doing that and is choosing to put some distance there instead. Perhaps its a self protective thing on her part, or perhaps she may already have the possibility of a new relationship in mind, and is using this as an excuse to distance herself from you.

nyr_fan · 10th August 2005, 11:18 AM

It sounds to me like your girlfriend has some insecurity issues. These seem like minor things for her to lose all trust in you. I think you two should talk this out a little more and she if theirs more in her past or something that is making her not trust you for these types of things.

I hope it works out for you two, and you never have real trust issues with infidelity, etc. like me and hundreds of others are going through in these forums. Good luck, my friend. Take care.