Young relationship to older, keeping it alive? help?

Shana

Ok another thought to ponder. My 1st post as Shana was about marriage, my great guy, and If I want to get married etc. but I have other questions and concerns of course!

Do you ever feel like your relationship is getting old? I don’t mean old as in the mutual love is dwindling just old as in the little things are never said or done anymore... they have been replaced with other more foundation-set meanings but you MISS those little things big time.

Remember when you were getting ready to go to your g/b friends house and you would take forever to prepare your self in nice clothes, make up, clean shaved face etc? Do you still do that? I do but we live together so he sees me pretty and not so pretty, I sometime feel like although I LOVE living with him maybe things would be different if some things that are yet to be seen so to say.

Remember the ohh, your skin is so soft or you smell so good?? I STILL make those comments his way, maybe not as often but I do, I do here some great compliments from him but these two I no longer hear. Why? Today I am wearing jeans and a loud rhinestone belt, we had lunch and he says, your hair is different today, wow look at that belt, no compliment though, I said ok .. Is there something wrong with my outfit today? See, I am one of those people who never follows style, I am my own me, so my outfits are conservative one day, crazy the next, maybe he was caught off guard with my appearance today, maybe because he was wearing a suit, like everyday>? Humm, I wonder once again.

Remember in the beginning when anything you said stupid or intelligent he would be there listening and ready to answer? Now sometimes I feel like I am talking to a wall, and yes, I represent the wall myself at times. It happens, but why? Are we both being taken for granted by each other? As you see I am not pushing the issues to be a “him” issue, it is both of us, I notice this, does he though ? ... I wonder.

I always feel appreciated, wanted, and pretty as we all want to feel, he is a wonderful, beautiful person in too many ways I just think he is comfortable with us as us. We travel, go out a lot, laugh and have awesome fun together, its not like we are sitting at home together doing and neither of us live a “single” lifestyle, we always include each other in everything. Which is cool.

I cannot seem to find out what is bothering me. I think that is why I asked for marriage should I, do I advice in an earlier post. With marriage I believe I will experience more of the little and then big things diminish, even so with them being replaced with other meaningful happy times..
I am just SO happy with him in my life, we were meant to be I feel. He does not complete me because I already am complete but he does make my world that much more special, I just want to make sure that it stays special..... I think a lot, show me a real problem because I do not have to deal with a cheating, lying spouse.. Heck, we never argue what so ever, life is good, but what’s my hang up then?? Thanks for listening to my junk here.