Hey everyone!
I've been seeing someone for a while now (2 months) and really like him. The thing is though, I can't understand him. Like, he speaks good English and all :-p, but I don't know if he is playing games with me. I'll try to put it into two categories for easy comprehension;
Facts that make me think he wants to be "just friends";
-I haven't seen him in THREE weeks
-He goes 4 or 5 days without calling, if at all
-He doesnt reply to some messages
-I have invited him out 3 times since I saw him last, none of them he was able to come to, I know that one time had a valid excuse
-He hasn't called me in AGES (3 weeks...I call him about every 3 days)
-He forgets about me, like forgets to call etc. (he's said so himself)
-I jokingly said to him on the phone after he said he forgot to call back the previous day "oh I thought I had been dumped!" to which there was a reply of "no", then an awkard silence (things unsaid?)
-A couple of times I have called him after about 3 days, and he has made excuses to go after a few mins of conversation.
-When we first slept in the same bed, there was no sex (he has reasons unrelated to me, as in moral issues etc). Was very affectionate, but later noticed he was pretty much sleeping on the edge of the bed, like I had cornered him. (haha - my prey!!)
Facts that make me think he still likes me;
-Last time I called him, he was eager to talk for ages
-He lives far away (1 hour) so its sometimes hard to see him as I dont have a car
-He is busy with his work (I know thats no excuse for not calling!)
-He is like this to everyone (recently went a week with no credit on his mobile)
-I've assumed he's not interested 3 times before (ie. him not replying to messages, not calling etc. and have been surprised to find each time that he is, in fact, interested)
-Last time I saw him he kissed me and told me to "call him every 5 mins"
-He is a big time commitment phobe (but very trustworthy in regards to fidelity), so maybe he's like that with everyone he dates.
-I've met family
-I've straight up asked him if he likes me, to which he replied he was and surprised that I thought he wasnt. (so maybe not calling etc. is not his way of letting someone know that they should "just be freinds")
Whats the go?
3 weeks?!!? I am going INSANE! When you like someone, you want to see them! Or talk to them! Is that normal to expect that?
I have recently put myself out there a bit (being very affectionate, calling, saying slightly relationshipy things) so Im thinking he's got that instinctive dating thing where you don't want to be with someone who wants you too much.
So last time I called him I mentioned that I went out the night before, got very drunk and had heaps of fun at this party ("What made it fun?" - him, in a slightly suspicious voice hehe) and that I was going out clubbing on Sunday night. Just to stir it up a bit. It still hasn't worked - 4 days, no phone call.
We've only been going out for a few months, but its like he has gone well past that "I want to impress you" stage
What do YOU think?! Im going insane, please help me!
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