So, I decided after being out of shape for the last 10 years, and having a noticable gut and double chin, that I was going to make a change for me. I've been going religiously to the gym six days a week on the Body for Life program and have lost an emormous amount of weight, and have put on a great deal of muscle. Basically I'm at the point where I can count 4 very defined abs and am actively working to see if I'm am genetically blessed enough to have eight - please god please haha. My wife has begun noticing the looks and comments I am getting from other women (like at the mall this weekend), where I'm pretty much oblivious to others comments, and could care less who they are or what their opinion is of me - I'm happily married, that's good enough for me. So, this has led to some kind of crisis in my wife's mind, that she must also be extremely skinny, in order for me to not look or take up offers from other women - like I would?!?. She was obviously very comfortable when I was fat, and didn't feel the need to worry then haha. Anyways, my wife is already, and always has been in awesome physical shape - I have no complaints, and never have - I've always just worshipped her incredible body, because she's one of those lucky 10% that doesn't have to really exercise, can eat the junk she wants, and still have quite a defined hard body, that guys immediately look at and make moves on her.
So my question is, Why is she suddenly becoming so insecure and starting to starve herself all the time to compete against me? She knows I'm not working out for any other reason then my own soul. I worry about her health now that she's doing this, and she gets dizzy or hot flashes once in a while from it. I keep reassuring her that I LOVE her, LOVE her body, and LOVE our marriage and our daughter, and would NEVER even consider leaving her for someone else.
She made a comment to me this morning as I had just stepped out of the shower "O my god, look at how defined your getting, and how big chest and arms arms developing - I'm gonna have to starve myself to death to make sure I'm pretty enough to be with you." What the hell kind of comment is that?!? Why would she ever even assume that after her telling her everday of her life how much I love and need her, that she would have to do this to herself, because of the way I now look.
*sigh* I'm just worried and confused. Any ideas or opinions are much welcomed
Cheers
Threaded Mode