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I didnt want this to get hidden at the end of that topic. i think i speak for many single moms maybe single dads on this.

This post is very distrubing to me. i actually found myself offended...which is next to impossible to do to me. let me ask this....for all of you who say the kids will be screwed up because the parents are divorced are you married with kids and still living with their dad? because no one and id bet on it would say that unless their life and significant other was good. until you experience what we divorced people go through and the guilt i wake up with everyday because i left my ex and i have the kids and they only see him once a week...dont tell me if it will mess them up. and for those that believe parents should stay together for the kids and deal with....you werent mentually abused were you? you werent on antidepressants just to live at home were you? you didnt have a full bottle of milk whipped at you because he / she didnt "feel" like feeding the child did you? i had 2 nervous breakdowns because of him. and i stayed and stayed for 8 years trying to make it work. but sometimes it just cant. and i am a child from divorced parents and if anyhting it has shown me that some times things dont work out and there is life afterwards. things can get better. my parents argued so bad i would hide and cry in my closet so for those of you saying youd rather have your parents hate each other and stay together....how selfish of you. make 2 people you love and care about stay together and be so miserable. thats no way to live. and i truly believe it is sad how many people are divorced and the children that need to alter their lives but i am a dam good mom and my kids say i am their best friend. every day. and they are happy. isnt that what its about when your a parent. making your children happy and giving them the best you can. i did that for my kids. i took them out of an unhappy home and provided them a happy comfortable life now. and i wouldnt go back no matter what anyone says. so before anyone says anything about running this country into the ground...wait. wait til your husband beats, abuses, cheats or leaves. then come on here and crying and feeling like you dont have a soul becuase you made his dad leave and listen to everyone say to you......you are going to mess the kids up. if you dont think that hasnt crossed any single moms mind on here....think again. even as bad as it was from me i feel awful everyday. but dont judge me til you've walked a mile in my shoes.