hi,can someone set me straight

mishy · 16th July 2005, 5:06 AM

hi, i just wanted to run this by someone- maybe i have been reading too much into it- and i knew you lot would set me straight.

I have a really good friend who is a guy (i'm female). We are just friends but extremely close.

I have a cat who is really a one person cat- doesn't really like anyone but me and doesn't like some of my friends very much. Anyway this guy Matthew has actually started to hate my cat.

Last night I was talking to Matthew on the phone and Samba (the cat) came and said on my lap and was purring like mad and I was calling her sweetheart and baby and cutey and all these baby names. Matthew said oh my god i can't listen to this because i can't stand that cat. And then he said "Well actually its really because i'm jealous when you talk like that.....of Samba".. then there was this very awkward long silence and i changed the subject.

I know this is ridiculous but is he trying to tell me something? is he trying to drop a hint? i know it probably means nothing but i thought i'd see what anyone thought

youjustconfuseme · 16th July 2005, 7:21 AM

Of course he is ...and if you feel the same way , go for it I hope it works out for you and remember not games, Men do NOT like head games...just be straight and direct.

greenhorn · 16th July 2005, 5:31 PM

And if you don't feel it the same way then tell him upfront.

loony · 16th July 2005, 5:41 PM

He's trying to tell you that he likes you and that he would love to hear you give him the same pet names.

mishy · 17th July 2005, 10:05 PM

His exact words were "I 'm just jealous......of Samba". he didn't say "when you talk like that"

I'm just confused because six months ago he told me that he doesn't want a relationship with me. So obviously i don't want to feel like a fool.

mishy · 18th July 2005, 4:43 AM

His last relationship was with a man. It broke up a month ago. So thats why i think i might be reading too mmuch into it.

MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 · 18th July 2005, 4:09 PM

I'd be teed off too if I was talking to someone on the phone, and they started talking to their cat, their kid, their sofa....you get my drift?

The cat was getting more attention from you than he was!

NTB · 18th July 2005, 4:16 PM

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Last night I was talking to Matthew on the phone and Samba (the cat) came and said on my lap and was purring like mad and I was calling her sweetheart and baby and cutey and all these baby names. Matthew said oh my god i can't listen to this because i can't stand that cat. And then he said "Well actually its really because i'm jealous when you talk like that.....of Samba".. then there was this very awkward long silence and i changed the subject.

he wants to sit in your lap and have you call him all those names
now if you feel the same way toss the cat and let matt come over and he can start "purring like mad"

loony · 18th July 2005, 4:23 PM

I saw you started two other very similar threads, but in one of them you mentioned that he was gay?

http://www.loveshack.org/forums/show...threadid=67120

Maybe that's a piece of information worth to be mentioned....

NTB · 18th July 2005, 4:41 PM

oh man if he is then i think he might want your cat instead.......sorry

mishy · 18th July 2005, 6:43 PM

i said he was gay on this thread too - on post number 6.

NTB · 18th July 2005, 6:46 PM

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Originally posted by mishy
i said he was gay on this thread too - on post number 6.

he could play for both teams

mishy · 18th July 2005, 7:02 PM

I don't know- he has never had a girlfriend but has slept with a girl once when he was 17. he is 28. I think its all been a misunderstanding. Its just very confusing because we are so close.