Cheating, Flirting, and JealousyBeing unfaithful to your significant other or suspect them of the same? Can't stand the way they flirt? Jealous? Discuss your experiences here.
Well, here it goes. I've been suspecting for several months now, that something wasn't right, a behavior change in the guy that I was involved with for the last 5 years.I suspected another woman. You know women can tell when something is wrong ,even though he really tried to hide it. We didn't live together,though.
Anyway, he calls me the other afternoon, and asks me what I was doing. I told him I was going home. He said he would call me back.I waited and waited and no call.He told me he was tired and going home at 3 pm. Suddenly, something came over me and I decided to take a ride through our company's parking lot. I saw his van there, and noticed the top of the van was open, meaning he had to be inside. I ride around again, when I noticed the van rocking, and rocking, and rocking.
So- I blew the horn , and the van would not stop rocking. So, I decided to tap the van with my car to grab his attention. Seconds later, he comes out in shorts and a tank top, and the first thing out of his mouth was "What's the matter?", so I said "so sorry , sarcastically-oh did I hit the van", then I said "so you are F*** around, right?", and the last thing I said was "Have A Nice Life".And I left! Can you believe this idiot, did not say a word, no apology, nothing! And hasn't called me in two days - to at least attempt to say something. Not that I would talk to him-anyway. Men! 5 years wasted on that loser jerk!
Oh well, he was probably fat and bald anyway and just having it off with some desparate woman !!! Consider yourself lucky ... from your description sounds like he was pretty scary lookin sight ... he probably had to force her ... lol ... omg !!
He was good looking, and I'm still hurting, it was painful to catch him in the act. But more so, when he didn't say a word. Just said "What's the matter", in an angry voice. I should have called the police- because he would have been summoned, but I didn't want a confrontation with the other woman and him.
So- I just took off in my car. Regardless, I'm still hurting, because I did have feelings for him, and cared about him. He hasn't made any attempt whatsoever to apology or anything. I suppose he likes the other woman more.
He probably went back to the van- and told her I was his ex- and lied his way back in.
I'm still depressed and shocked about what happened.
Well, at least now you know. It hurts like hell to lose someone, even if that someone is a pathetic loser.
Don't let it show that you're hurting and tell this story to all your friends out laughing, something like: "he's such a croge that he doesn't even have the decency to take his lays to a hotel. I imagine she must be really special, that's why he's saving up his hotel money".
And don't say anything about his not being apologetic. Just act like you're totally over him . I know it sould very shallow what I'm suggesting, but it helps. And after a while, if you keep acting this way, you'll even start believing it.
It was my first day back to work today, and I didn't see him, so that's a plus. However, I noticed that he moved his position, meaning he is parking his vehicle someplace else. Since I didn't make a scene like a lot of women would have done probably, I think the loser is scared.
Thanks so much for all you caring advice- I did that today, acting happy, carefree, etc, while still hurting very much inside. Yes- I'm certainly glad I only wasted 5 years and not 10.
I must agree- the other one must have very low-standards to rock in the van, her problem now. Not mine! I hope she realizes in time- what he did to me he'll do to her. He's a lying, cheating, cheap dog. The only other thing that perturbs me about all this, is she probably knows who I am, and I don't have a clue who she is. Since we all work together.
Even though I would love to know, I'm not going to bother. I'll just put the nail to the coffin. Eventually, she'll figure out why I dumped him, if not ,she's plain ignorant and they deserve each other.
There's plenty of fish out there! I'm slowly but surely getting over the crumb. A friend of mine today, (a guy) also informed me that as a guy he almost guarantees me that my ex- saw me behind him honking the horn ,but ignored me- and when I tapped the rear of my ex's-car that's when he came out.
He also told me as a guy his strategy, that he will wait until I cool off, and then attempt to see me or call me. Now, he said -he is plain avoiding me- because he's scared- not knowing my further reaction.
Seriously, what kind of guy screws someone in his van on COMPANY PROPERTY? Although there's likely no specific company policy on shagging in the parking lot, I'd imagine that if he'd been caught by someone who wanted to raise hell for him, he could be seriously reprimanded or suspended for such inappropriate behavior? What a dolt. The whole thing reminds me of some of those funked out Shaggin' Wagon Boogie Vans from the 70's, with the Fuzzy Dice hanging from the rear-view mirror, the orange shag carpet inside, and the whole "don't bother knockin' if this van's a knockin" - with the sounds of "Stayin' Alive" playing in the background. Sorry, not trying to make light of your situation but the guy sounds like a tacky sleazebag.
That sounds right to me... avoiding a confrontation and waiting until you cool down thinking that you'll either forget it or just think, "oh well". He will certainly find out, won't he.
I will definitely keep you posted, so far it's been 3days it happened on Wed. I do have my moments though- which I really try to block the image of the van rocking back and forth out of my mind. It can certainly drive a person crazy!
Anyway, I believe there is a company policy, since the company is high-profile. I'm sure he would have been either suspended or fired. But then again, I would have been portrayed as a scorn woman, without witnesses, like security, etc. Which they have it there. Also, what comes around goes around. Believe me, I've thought of many things, but again all thoughts. Seeking revenge, like putting crazy glue on his vehicle, 4 flat tires, etc, he would know it's me, and to be honest not really my style.
Yes- I'm hurt, but I believe just walking away from it all, is enough. I don't won't to end up with any diseases, who knows what the other one has, the history behind her.
considering you had suspicions that he'd been cheating on you, and you know now that he was - you gotta consider getting yourself tested for all kinds of STDs because who knows how long he's been doing this and what the health history of this chick is. Don't mean to scare you but the sooner the better.
Oh-yes- I do agree! I will make an appointment. That's the real sad thing about this, men get involved with women, don't even do a background search on their past. Of course, women won't tell them exactly how many before- so like myself, the women who catch them cheating are the victims.
He's such a low life-to not tell me something. Have the decency to stop calling me, or stop seeing me. He continued to see both of us, it seems. That same day that I caught him, he had called me in the afternoon.
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. I know it sould very shallow what I'm suggesting, but it helps. And after a while, if you keep acting this way, you'll even start believing it.
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