Good God, thats disgusting!!! Just the thought of sharing soup w/ ANYONE makes me ill!!!!!! their mouth on the spoon, then in my soup, stirring it around.....BLEEEHH...or my spit in the soup that theyre then eating!!!!!
Also, I always think its funny that we all argue/disagree on one thread, and then laugh/agree/have fun on another one.....I LOVE this place (though i'm not sure what's thought of ME...haha)
So anyway, you were venting....and thats what you thought/felt about it. maybe at some point she wont be so pushy/feel entitled, or work somewhere else...or maybe youll change your view of the situation.....but its always fine to vent!!!
Of course it's not nice to tell someone you can't stand them! And yes, it's petty to talk about them behind their back(s)! But you can't be nice and petty-free all the time! There's nothing wrong with ranting about the annoying idiot at work (fat or not) and because the Internet is somewhat anonymous, this is _exactly_ the place to do it!
Anyone who scolds you for venting here needs to get off their soapboxes and admit that they, too, have been annoyed, frustrated or disgusted at someone they've worked with AND have said something naty behind their back.
If you say you haven't, then you're a liar! Or you're not human. If you're not human, then you still can't say anything because you've never experienced petty human emotions!
I can empathize with the hate you feel towards this cow. There's not many things worse than a fat co-worker constantly breathing down your neck for chocolate...or pizza....whatever food has gotten their attention.
I have this feeling that you are also a bit overweight or not very pretty, and you are picking on this woman because she is the only person you view as being worse off than you are. As a generally self-confident person, I really dislike when I see people like yourself ganging up on others. Here's a suggestion: try being nice to Judy. You might just find that, in being nice to her, you like yourself better. I know that treating people with kindness and having the class to ignore this kind of petty, immature gossip makes me feel good. People like yourself make work environments toxic with your own insecurities and lack of class.
Why can't you just accept that they are just be fat and annoying? Could it be that you're defensive because you're fat and annoying too? I too work with a fat annoying witch. Her weight has everything to do with her being annoying, because her fat a$$ can't seem to get out of her chair unless it's to walk around doing nothing while looking for a desk to stop at. Skinny people unite!!
MWC:
You can be assertive with this lady, by TELLING her what she is doing that is bothering you (and others) so much.
WITHOUT being CRUEL -- which is NEVER called for. Say "Judy, I would appreciate it if you didn't....." or "if you are going to have some pizza, you can only have one slice (two, whatever) or else contribute to the snack budget..." Whatever it takes. As often as necessary. And if you have to say no, then say it. Firmly, but KINDLY.
People are not mind readers. Yes, some people might get the implied hint, but if she were that perceptive, she wouldn't be reaching for peoples food, candy, pizza, doughnuts, whatever in the first place.
I've known PLENTY of thoughtless people in my 21yrs of work, and true, a lot of them are CLUELESS about how they come across. So, if need be, I tell them. And they tell ME, and have brought me up short a few times if they felt I was out of line. Not pleasant, to be sure, but that's life. Not everyone you meet in life is going to always meet with your approval or behave the way YOU want. It's called COMPROMISE. That's what grownup people should hopefully have learned to do by the time they're a few decades past puberty.
As for her body size, that's irrelevant. It doesn't matter what she looks like. She is a HUMAN BEING, and at least deserves the basic dignity and respect that we ALL deserve. TREAT OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM TREAT YOU. Doing anything else is just petty and immature.
Which means, for the love of g**, if she falls in the parking lot and hurts herself, have the ***damn human decency to help her and make sure she's okay! Wouldn't YOU want someone to help you if it happened to YOU!??? And don't pat yourself on the back thinking that you're somehow better than she is because you work harder, look prettier, tell better jokes... EVERYONE has flaws my dear -- even you! Just do the best YOU can, try to treat everyone you meet with consideration and respect, do your own job and leave the rest behind.
Why can't you just accept that they are just be fat and annoying? Could it be that you're defensive because you're fat and annoying too? I too work with a fat annoying witch. Her weight has everything to do with her being annoying, because her fat a$$ can't seem to get out of her chair unless it's to walk around doing nothing while looking for a desk to stop at. Skinny people unite!!
Blimey MWC's rant turned into a free for all didn't it!!
She wasn't asking your opinion, she was ranting, venting. She can say what she wants. We've all been frustrated by someone to our limit at times no doubt!!
That's why these places exist...
Now... I work with this fat, pizza loving woman who piss*s me off.....
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Hey millefiori
Blimey MWC's rant turned into a free for all didn't it!! 
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