Ex Dating a Friend - ok to be upset?

Lost5555

I don't know what forum this belongs in. But here is my story.

I got word today from a friend that my ex was interested in her. I found this weird because he had said while we were dating that he has a very strict policy of never dating a girl that his friends have dated or is a friend of one of the girls he has dated.

So I sent him this email:

Hey there,
I thought it wouldn't bug me, but...regarding F - I thought you promised me that you would never date one of my friends...? She told me you asked if it would be comfortable for her, but I hope you realize that such a situation would be a little awkward for me. I work with her on a couple cases and she's a regular "drinks/shopping/spa-day with the girls" kinda pal...I confide in her at times, and frankly I am concerned about her willingness. But of course I care about you and want you to be happy, so I certainly won't stand in your way if you really want to change your "no dating a girl I used to date's friends" policy. I guess I spoke so highly of you in the past that apparently I made her interested in you - haha. You might be able to attribute the line of gals at your door to me... LOL. Anyway, hope all is well with the new gig.
Talk soon,
Jen

And I got this in response from him:

I don't have to time to have an exchange on this so please don't reply to this. Basically, I will not date her.

I made it sound like it is not a good idea for us to date because it
would be awkward. I only wrote her b/c she flirted with me.

NOTE: I forbid you to talk with her about this b/c it is between me and her. I don't want to find out that you did later.

Bottom line: case closed Jen. That's it. If you continue to "talk this one out with me", I am going to get frustrated and back away. There is nothing for you to worry about here. There will be no dating with F.

Gotta go
L


Now, is it just me, or is his response out of control rude and just plain weird? "Forbid" me to talk to her? She's MY friend!! And telling me not to respond because he doesn't have time???

It really bums me out because although we were broken up (about a month now), we were still really good friends. I could confide in him, hang out with him, rely on him...all of that still, just without the romance. That said, the breakup is still somewhat fresh and my feelings for him are still there a little.