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Old 13th July 2005, 3:39 PM   #1
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Exs Bday?

My exs bday is in 10 days....should i send him a message saying Happy Birthday???
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:39 PM   #2
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My exs bday is in 10 days....should i send him a message saying Happy Birthday???
No
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:41 PM   #3
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Did he do it to you? If your bday passed that is. See, I was wondering this too. Are you on NC as of now? If so then no, don;t send hi a message. If you guys are friends and talk here and there, then yes. But if it was a nasty break up then leave well enough alone.
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:41 PM   #4
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Well thats sort of what I thought, but i feel bad? For my day he had a party for me and gave me a beautiful ring - which i dont even wear anymore since he dumped my a$$ 3 weeks later!!! ugh!!
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:42 PM   #5
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:43 PM   #6
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Why did he break up with me? or why should i send him a message?
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:46 PM   #7
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Don't send him a birthday message
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:46 PM   #8
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Well lets see he broke up with me for no reason and that was 2.5 months ago, it took him FOREVER to give me my things back and it wasnt even everything...
We work for the same company and have run into each other several times...
Just when i start to get over him, he suddenly resurfaces and it makes me SOO mad!! He sent me an email last week to see how my vacation was...as if he should care...but like an idiot i responded, he got what he wanted and then stopped replying to my emails...
So after that I got mad and decided NC is best for this situation. I even changed my workout schedule as of monday so that he cant see me.
My bday was before we broke up so yes it passed. I just didnt know if I should wish him a happy bday or not?
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:47 PM   #9
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Why send him a message for his Birthday .. He is an Ex

don't give him the satisfaction that are thinking of him
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:49 PM   #10
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I guess the verdict is NO!!!
Geez i feel bad but I guess everyone is right, i shouldnt give him the satisfaction that he crossed my mind that day. It will probably hurt him more by me not acknowledging it.
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:50 PM   #11
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If you send him a message he'll think that you still care and than you'll open yourself up again to him. What happens if you send the message and he ignores the fact that you sent it?? How will you feel??

The best thing to do is forget about him and move on.
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:52 PM   #12
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It will probably hurt him more by me not acknowledging it.
It will not ..

If you send him a card it will only boost his ego .. It's only a birthday

When people break up they don't break up and say " Let's break up but send each other cards "
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:52 PM   #13
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:52 PM   #14
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Well I know he wont ignore it but I do still care for him a TON and still want him back so sending the message will probably set me back pretty far.
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Old 13th July 2005, 3:53 PM   #15
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It will probably hurt him more by me not acknowledging it.
I was thinking the same thing. My ex's is the SAME DAY as my sister's so he knows I'm going to remember, but I wont say anything to him. Whats the point, so he can feel special?

**** that!
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