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Old 13th July 2005, 12:49 AM   #1
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Is this considered cheating??

My best guy friend of 3+ years keeps asking me to give him full body (non sexual) massages meanwhile for the last 2+ months he is now living with his g/f! Is this common b/w really close male/female friends or should I be asking him why doesnt he just ask his g/f for this??? I dont mind at all giving it to him.. but I want to know why I am the one he always is asking for it from.
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:51 AM   #2
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Charge him for the service, and don't give him a happy ending.
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:51 AM   #3
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it's freakin' weird

Why haven't you already asked him WHY he keeps asking you?

It's too freakin' weird. This is definitely NOT something you ask a friend to do unless you have the hots for them. Tell him to get go down to the local massage clinic (no, not the "me love you long time" kind).
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:52 AM   #4
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Oh Damn!

See I would so kick my BF's ass if he asked one of his Girl buddies to give him a massage
Hell yeah ask him why he doesn't ask his GF to do this for him.. sheesh!
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:53 AM   #5
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I would definitely enjoy a full body massage from an attractive woman in a way that would not be kosher if I was in a serious relationship.
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:54 AM   #6
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Full body, naked? I'd be a bit concerned then, but if it's non sexual then I personally wouldn't be worried. Maybe his girlfriend doesn't like giving them. Best to ask him though.

Are you a qualified massuese? If not, tell him to go pay for it
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:55 AM   #7
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Maybe his girlfriend doesn't like giving them. Best to ask him though.
What if his GF also doesn't like giving Blowjobs what then?

JK JK JK
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:56 AM   #8
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What if his GF also doesn't like giving Blowjobs what then?

JK JK JK
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Old 13th July 2005, 12:58 AM   #9
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LOL

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What if his GF also doesn't like giving Blowjobs what then?

JK JK JK
good question lol

Seems to me you can't possibly have a good full body massage unless you're damn near buck nekkid.....and I personally can't imagine getting one from a close guy friend and not being turned on by the very act of it, a full body massage is so good and hands slip and touch things they shouldn't lol. Well okay, maybe if my close guy friend had a unibrow and only one pearly white front tooth
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:00 AM   #10
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Another thing he does which doesnt fall under cheating but if you spend the whole day at home with your g/f why would u come over to your friends place later that night and ask her to cook u food?? Well he should be doing it himself 1st off but why again would he be asking me for this and not his g/f???
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:02 AM   #11
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you need to ask HIM these questions

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Another thing he does which doesnt fall under cheating but if you spend the whole day at home with your g/f why would u come over to your friends place later that night and ask her to cook u food?? Well he should be doing it himself 1st off but why again would he be asking me for this and not his g/f???
You really gotta be asking HIM these questions - we can't read his mind, we don't know what his motivations are.

So are you a massage therapist or something?

Why haven't you asked him why he keeps asking you for a massage?
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:03 AM   #12
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Another thing he does which doesnt fall under cheating but if you spend the whole day at home with your g/f why would u come over to your friends place later that night and ask her to cook u food?? Well he should be doing it himself 1st off but why again would he be asking me for this and not his g/f???
Are you sure his GF isn't one of those "I got her in the mail and she came with a pump?"
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:04 AM   #13
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Well we were FWB until his g/f moved in with him... he keeps saying we are just friends but he continues to treat me as more then a friend and I'm not saying in a sexual sense. I just want an explanation but I feel if I quesiton him he will get all weirded out.
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:05 AM   #14
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They live next door to me. .so she definitly exists!
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Old 13th July 2005, 1:05 AM   #15
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Well we were FWB until his g/f moved in with him... he keeps saying we are just friends but he continues to treat me as more then a friend and I'm not saying in a sexual sense. I just want an explanation but I feel if I quesiton him he will get all weirded out.
Well honestly I think the answer is pretty clear..
He would still like to get it on with you on the low.
Sounds like an assclown to me.
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