[SunnySG]

Okay, I'm a 27 year old woman.
My marriage is splitting up.
I had thought my controlling/dominating/involved parents were finally resigned to the fact that my marriage was being dissolved (I have recently filed for divorce).

Until I got the call.

Quite Friday night at home, alone. My dad phones me and we chit chat idly for a few minutes.
Then he blows me away:

Dad - "Did your mother tell you I haven't slept at all?" (over the news of my split)
Me - "Yes she did. I haven't gotten any sleep either, Dad."
Dad - "I wouldn't expect that you do... Listen. In my hand I have 2 round-trip tickets to anywhere in the United States - including the Carribean. If you and Doug get back together, you can have them."
Me - "What?"
Dad - (Repeats what he just said) - (In the background is my mom, who I can hear saying things like, "Tell her they can go to Puerto Rico, or Florida. J, tell her.")
My dad tells me. I can also hear her say "They can go to Vermont and stay at a Bed & Breakfast. She loves those! Tell her J, tell her."
My dad relays this information.

I am getting sick - Surely this is some sick joke? I mean, I know they're having a hard time, but did they honestly think I would throw away a good divorce proceding on a damn trip to anywhere?

But folks, it doesn't stop there.
I am able to get to sleep and when I wake up....

Mom - "Hey sweetie. Listen, you're dad and I were talking...."
I roll my eyes and lean against the doorjam.
Mom - "What if we gave you the house?" (We - well, just me now - live in a country house my parents own) "You can have it in August - you won't have to pay a dime."
Me - "Mom, I have to go. I hope you're joking because this is seriously desturbing."
Mom - "(Giggles) Well you don't know how upset your father is over this. He's lost his fishing buddy."

Honestly. This is not real life. This is a sitcom.

Someone pull the plug.

[westernxer]

I think your parents are suffering from status anxiety.

Most people do, some more than others.

[Merin]

Sheesh..

Your Dad lost his fishing buddy..

Ya know my EXMIL took my divorce much harder than I did.. when I told her I was divorcing her Son, first she fainted (no lie) then she cried her eyes out and begged us to reconisder... it was so sad and I felt horrible.

I was/am very close to my now EX MIL and she is tight with my Little People.. I know she had that same fear as your Dad regarding your STBEXH that she would be loosing me her friend..

I'm sorrry for what you're having to go through.. divorce isn't easy and especially when you're not feeling supported in your decisions by your own family...

Hang in there

[SunnySG]

When I asked my parents to lay off (not in those exact terms) my mom laughs and acts like it's all a big joke.
But it's not a joke to me, and my private life/divorce are PRIVATE.

Yes, it affects the whole family because my STBX was closer to them then he was to me.

I had started to avoid their calls because my mom would make jokes by pretending to call my STBX to the phone while she and I were talking like he's there with them.

Ha Ha. Yuck it up, clowns.

I mean, I can take a joke - Only, it actually has to be funny.

I know this is their way of coping, but it just makes me Bit-ter. Let's talk this dead horse into the ground even further.

My dad, he's just sensitive. My mom is a reverse snob.
She acts likes she's not because she doesn't want people to know that she is.

But that's our little secret.

[TOE]

Hey SunnySG Maybe all you really need is gods infinite unconditional pure innocent
selfless sacrificial wishing Love.

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