[klandes]

I've been with my BF for around 2 yrs, we're both 23yrs old.. we love each other, but this past year we grew very close and attached to one another, maybe a bit too much, cause the last two months we would argue constantly and i was feeling a bit suffocated and showed it by not being as affectionate as he wanted me to. He brought this up, so partially it's my fault but, after talking it over, we both decided to give it another try, however neither had the time and he didn't seem like he was interested in trying anymore, so he stopped communication, hasn't returned any of my calls and we havent' spoken since july 3rd, nor have i tried, i gave up and went NC. Which led me to think that he wants things to be over or some more time off, or who the hell knows!!... again he's done this before, as if i'm some sort of "safety net", we leave things undone and we always get back together. He uses non-communication as if he thinks that i still belong to him and he can get back whenever he feels like it. I don't want this anymore, i need to know what he wants and feels, but his silence is slowly pushing me away for good. He leaves me in the wanders and the was.

I have to mention that on friday, i went out and i was having the best time with this guy i met at a bar, (who just happens to have common friends with him, it's a small town) well, just when i'm about to put down this guy's # i see his txt message saying "i miss you" - talk about good timing ... ofcourse 2 hours later and a couple of drinks i text him back at 2am saying that i missed him too.. no replies.

He said he loves me last time we spoke about a week ago, unless he was being nice by saying it first, i wish he would stop the torture and the mind playing. Cause it's not healthy nor is it a mature way to work things out or to just move on with our lives, i want closure this time and i want him to tell me so. HOW do i go about it, it's been two weeks since we've seen e/other... i think he had some time to think it through and i'm thinking of calling him with a different number (since he's been ignoring mine) or maybe send him and email to just find out if he decided to end things for good and forgot to let the girlfriend know.
I'm not waiting around for him, i love him but i've been going out and meeting guys to clear my head off and stop my tears, and the feeling of guilt comes over me everytime i get close to someone, because i DO NOT know where i stand! and it's driving me insane, tonight i have a sortof date and you see, how can i have a good time if i don't know if it would be called cheating or what.. i'm sure he's doing the same thing, so i wanna know his thoughts before tonight please advise before i start dialing!

[Zaira]

Give yourself closure. Do what makes YOU happy. Maybe your ex doesn't want to be with you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

[Kat]

Originally posted by ~Zaira~
Give yourself closure. Do what makes YOU happy. Maybe your ex doesn't want to be with you, but he doesn't want anyone else to have you either.

Isn't it amazing. I don't understand why people do that. They can't be bothered threating you with dignity, let alone actually spend time with you, but no one else is allowed. HA

[Zaira]

Originally posted by Kat
Isn't it amazing. I don't understand why people do that. They can't be bothered threating you with dignity, let alone actually spend time with you, but no one else is allowed. HA

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