Ex's best friend called me last night! WTF??

sleeplessincnd · 10th July 2005, 6:11 PM

So last night at 1am my ex's best friend called me from my ex's place. He wanted me to come over! I told him there was no way - not unless my ex wanted me to.

So he was being rather elusive but he was telling me that he knows my ex had issues but that I need to talk to him. And he said to me "you have to try really hard ok". He said he didn't want to let me talk to my ex b/c it would be bad and then he would never get to hear my side of it. He also told me that "some girl is here - don't ask".

I said "well I am definitely not coming over there to hang out with his new gf" and his friend said "well it would be more fun if you were here - please, he needs you to". So I made his friend let me talk to my ex. But before he put him on the phone he said again "I need you to try really hard ok".

So my ex was very short with me on the phone and then he was trying to tell me his friend was drunk and his friend was protesting "no I'm not" which I don't think he was. So then I asked my ex "oh so how is your new gf?" and he said "she's a sweetheart" and I said "well you know who else is a sweetheart" and he said "yeah I know, but I have to go" and then he hung up.

WTF?? I know that my ex's friend is not the type to just call me to make trouble or b/c he thought it was funny. I think that my ex's friend is sick of him talking about me and moping around. I just don't get it - I think that if his friend wants us to talk he needs to convince my ex - not me!

What the heck am I supposed to do. I am pretty much decided to do nothing. If any of this is true then my ex should be calling me and wanting to talk. But he is not that type - he just wants to get a new gf and forget about any 'feelings' that he might have for me.

Should I try and talk to him - is that the only chance that we have? Or do I just wait and hope that his feelings for me are strong enough to overcome his stubbornness?

UCFKevin · 10th July 2005, 6:32 PM

I would do nothing at all. That's just plain ol' weird and a half.

Zaira · 10th July 2005, 9:56 PM

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Originally posted by UCFKevin
I would do nothing at all. That's just plain ol' weird and a half.

I agree. If the best friend was telling the truth then your ex should've been a bit nicer. Unless he is wanting you to hurt like he is. Who knows? Very VERY weird.

sleeplessincnd · 11th July 2005, 11:14 PM

Ok so I have in my possession the e-mail address of the friend who called me the other night. Would it hurt to send him an e-mail and see what he has to say?

I know that this is all a little immature and part of me doesn't want to play into it but then there are times when I am weak and want to cling to any bit of hope that might exist.

I guess I just want to know if I interpreted what he was saying correctly - that my ex wants me to try and get back with him. Or if there was something else to it?

Can it hurt to ask? I know it will get back to my ex if I do but at this point do I really care?

Zaira · 11th July 2005, 11:20 PM

If you are prepared to hear the answer either way, then do it. What have you got to lose? That whole situation you described above is crazy.

Sal Paradise · 12th July 2005, 1:34 AM

I'd lety it all go. Unless of course you want your ex back.

sleeplessincnd · 12th July 2005, 4:18 PM

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Originally posted by Sal Paradise
Unless of course you want your ex back.

Well I do still care about him and would have liked for it to work out but he was the one who broke up with me and unless he can say that he wants me back I don't think I should have to convince him.

What would you advice be if I did want him back? Should I try and get more information? I think that eventually he will realize what he has lost - but like I said he is so stubborn that he likely won't be able to admit that he is wrong.

What is the consensus out there? Even if you are stubborn and don't like to admit you are wrong would the desire to be with someone ever be strong enough to get you to overcome that??

Zaira · 12th July 2005, 9:56 PM

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Originally posted by sleeplessincnd
Even if you are stubborn and don't like to admit you are wrong would the desire to be with someone ever be strong enough to get you to overcome that??

Yes, although he may never actually ADMIT to you he was in the wrong.

ErinErinErin · 13th July 2005, 9:07 PM

I'd say only to email him if you can stand some disappointing words...it might not be bad...but who knows...seems strange that this guy would call you like that...maybe things are bad with the new gf and the friend liked you better? Who knows?