a lot of people feel that way, a lot of people don't. age is also a factor. if you're 16 years old and you've slept with 15 people, that's probably a lot. if you're 26, it's probably not.
I'm a guy, and I don't hold to double standards, though I'm probably different from the average guy. I understand that all people, men & women, are sexual creatures and want to get laid. It's part of being human. We get it into our heads from moralists & religious kooks that sex is dirty or wrong, or is for marriage only. I see nothing wrong with sex for fun, which is what it's supposed to be. If a girl is clean & not currently sleeping with anybody else, I don't really care how many partners she's had.
We all have a past, some more so than others. My only standard is that your past stays in the past so long as you are with me.
I once dated a girl and one day she got out a list with names on it and proceeding to write my name down. It was mostly men and some women. So I asked what that was for and she said she had always kept track of anyone she ever slept with. I was number 56 on the list. Did that bother me, a little, did it change anything about her or our relationship at the time no. She was 31 and that number doesn't seem to out of control considering she had never been married. It is only a big deal if you make it a big deal.
There are tons of double standards. Girls can be nice and accomodating and easy to get along with. Boys who do this are doormats and nice guys who get no play, and girls dump them. Behavior permitted to the one sex is discouraged in the other. That's a double standard.
Simple Economics. People value something that appeals to some sense of rarity. The more a dude's pimped his corny flowers and poetry, his heart of hearts, it seems less legitimate, and thus less attractive. Girls around the block are basically the same.
Supply and Demand. Men are purchasers in the love arena as women are. if they can seek something rarer -- if they care enough about it -- they will. Women who meet that profile will have something going for them. Just like some women look for tall guys, rich guys, whatever. If it exists, it will be valued.
Real life Experience. In mens' experience, women encourage men to be sexually aggresssive by being comparatively passive.
In men's experience, women prefer sexually dominant EXPERIENCED men -- every man/boy/guy has lost a girl to a man who was perceived as sexually more experienced.
Mental Illness. In many men's experience, a woman with a HUGE body count for her age bespeaks low self esteem, weak ego, weak character.
Value. In many men's experience, a woman with a HUGE body count for her age bespeaks low self esteem, weak ego and weak character*, all of which are less than attractive. The less attractive they are, the more attractive others appear.
*Sure, there's a Sex in the City Samantha out there, but these boards are full of girl confessions about hooking up/cheating looking to become complete or to get attention or to be validated. Those are character flaws.
DISCLAIMER: this is not in support of the goof ball boys who post here about being sad that their g/f isn't a virgin. Each person picks individually what works for him, and what does and doesn't bother him.
Double standards exist, and we all have to just "get used" to them; they are not going away. Pointing out double standards and complaining about them has never seemed to solve anything.
Originally posted by westernxer
Guys don't care if a woman's a whore... chicks are the ones who get off on this stuff.
nah not true. just have a look around this forum. i have read several threads about a man who is horrified to learn of his girlfriend's sexual past and in some cases they say they can't continue to go out with them because they wrongly thought she was pure! Sad, but true.
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