If you're dating someone that you met on an online dating site, how far along in the relationship should you expect the other person and yourself to remove your profiles and cancel your membership to the site? How much time? How many dates? Before or after you talk about exclusivity?
I met my ex online... and after say, three or four dates, I hid my profile... not so much out of exclusivity, but I was getting messages when I wasn't interested and I figured it wasn't fair to those folks.
He however left his up for longer. I never said anything, but it was eventually removed as he came to terms with the relationship in his own time.
Don't forget that fellers are far slower than us women when it comes to these things.
How's the dating going Jen - any success? I am having a 'coffee date' tonight with an online person... I'm very reserved but you gotta dust yourself off and carry on eventually!!!
Yeah, I met my last boyfriend online too. He took his profile down after two dates, but I later found out that he re-subscribed when we were having a rough patch.....that hurt. So I'm a bit more cautious this time around.
The odd thing is that the guy I'm seeing now is someone who contacted me two years ago before -- we clicked on the phone, but I never met him because I got involved with my ex. So he saw me back online, and emailed me, but his profile was (and still is) hidden. So even though his profile is hidden, it does make me wonder if he's contacting other women (even though he says he isn't), because I can't see whether or not he is active on his profile. I asked him the other night why his profile was hidden and he said that he likes to be "selective". Maybe I'm overly paranoid. I dunno.
Other than the above mentioned suspicion, everything is really great with this guy. We are soooo compatable, equally attracted to each other, and he has already given me two gifts and four cards, and not pressured me for sex. He seems really perfect for me so far.
So what about this coffee date? How long have you guys been chatting?
Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken
If you're dating someone that you met on an online dating site, how far along in the relationship should you expect the other person and yourself to remove your profiles and cancel your membership to the site? How much time? How many dates? Before or after you talk about exclusivity?
Good question. I have been wondering about this too. I'd say when you reach "exclusiveness" then it's time for the profiles to be inactive.
Originally posted by ~Zaira~
Good question. I have been wondering about this too. I'd say when you reach "exclusiveness" then it's time for the profiles to be inactive.
Yeah, so I'm thinking that this should be part of the whole "exclusive" talk.....get it all out of the way at once.
After three or four solid dates is the general rule I use. However, I never remove my profiles, I just change my status to "In a Relationship" or something similar.
This couldn't hit closer to home. I'm going through the same thing and I'm really angry right now. It's been about two months and we spend a lot of time together and he never goes out with anyone else as far as I know and we had the discussion about dating other people and I thought we were on the same page about not dating others while we were dating.
However, he just updated his profile yesterday and put a new pic up. We have been having a rough patch the past week but I thought we were working through it. I feel like he's looking for something better to come along. It makes me want to tell him to just screw off because I don't need bothered by a man that doesn't think I'm the sh*t!!
I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to bring it up and at the same time I don't want to let it go because it's going to eat away at me and eventually I'm gonna crack!!
But also something else, on yalls mans profiles when it asks what hes looking for, does it say just friends or email or something like that? Or does it still say looking for a relationship??
But also something else, on yalls mans profiles when it asks what hes looking for, does it say just friends or email or something like that? Or does it still say looking for a relationship??
On mine, it is still the same "looking for a relationship"
I might give it a couple more weeks and just chill about it and it things are going well at that point I'm either going to tell him to get lost if he doesn't think I'm good enough and feels the need to continue searching for someone else to date. At this point I'm tired of the crap and the games.
Originally posted by lvgrl
But also something else, on yalls mans profiles when it asks what hes looking for, does it say just friends or email or something like that? Or does it still say looking for a relationship??
His profile has been hidden this whole time, so I have no idea. But I do know that he still sends me email through the website, so he must still be subscribed.
Originally posted by jen_jen_heartbroken
His profile has been hidden this whole time, so I have no idea. But I do know that he still sends me email through the website, so he must still be subscribed.
His profile is only hidden from YOU....not from other women.
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