[djrdei]

Well I met this current girl about a month after I got dumped from my first ever relationship. I was with my ex for almost two years and it all fell apart when my ex went off to school. I would visit her about once a week and when I was there she ignored me for the most part.....for example, id sit there on her bed as she organized her cereal boxes for about an hour. She ended up dumping me because she said she was too busy for a b/f, but she had plenty of time to go partin when I wasnt there and thats when I met the girl im with now.

The past few weeks has been rough for us. Everything was going well but now she got another summer job and on some days will be working 2 jobs between the hours of 5am till 11pm. I just dont see us having much time togeher at all before she goes to school. She will be attending the same college as me but she will be staying there and I commute, Its about a 20min drive from my house. This will be my senior year and I will not be on campus much because of the internship and field experience program thats part of my credits.

It bothers me that in the last few weeks she has given me less and less attention and I can only imagine that when she starts this new job that I will get even less from her. Its just that everytime I mention her going away to school she gets mad and says im comparing her to my ex. I dont even feel that I am saying it to compare to her. I just dont wanna loose another girl like the way i lost my first g/f.

any help here is needed because at the rate were going were not gonna make it much longer...

[crazy_grl]

Well, she has a valid point in saying that you're comparing her to your ex. You're afraid she's going to do the same thing the last girl did. That's unfair to her.

However, you do have a valid point in that LDRs are hard to maintain and often don't last. If you want to make it, I think you have to address the issue of how you're going to handle the distance thing. But don't assume that she's going to treat you like the last girl. Realize that she has the best intentions and work with her to find ways to maintain your relationship.

[Zaira]

Originally posted by crazy_grl
Well, she has a valid point in saying that you're comparing her to your ex. You're afraid she's going to do the same thing the last girl did. That's unfair to her.

However, you do have a valid point in that LDRs are hard to maintain and often don't last. If you want to make it, I think you have to address the issue of how you're going to handle the distance thing. But don't assume that she's going to treat you like the last girl. Realize that she has the best intentions and work with her to find ways to maintain your relationship.

Couldn't have said it better

[Cwazydude]

Well, I'll try.

I understand that you don't have much time for each-other, but there are always weekends and such. You can always try to plan time out for each-other, Like "Lets see a movie this Sunday" or something.

Usually at this time in both your lives, your always busy. You can't hate her for trying to keep her head above the water. I don't think she would be working 2 jobs unless she needs too.

Just, Try to calm down.