[Dasani]

Yep, I'm doomed to be nice.

Normally not a bad thing to say about ones self.

I have heard from at LEAST 3 diff people I 'll change when I meet someone I like. I dont ignore my friends- whihc some people do.. but I CANNOT not be nice to the girl. When as friends- I can be sarcastic, funny, blah blah blah... I can cuss infront of themm, at them, to them, I can throw out totally unPC comments.. or just be in general my normal twisted fun filled self.

With them as an interest... bam... I'm polite, as I would be around an important person I'm trying to get a job from.

I joke but its almost formal, I make comments but usually thought out in advance, I HATE talking on phone because I hated the phone before being interested so I really hate it now.. much rather text so I can edit my info. I dress nicer, I become devils advocate easier (she might eat mcdonalds... and then I cant stand mcdonalsds - even though I generally like it - just like all the rest of america was programmed too).

I become.. sickening enough.. a father figure. It would be great if I were a father (way down the road) and was a father figure.. but I dont need to be doing that with chicks I'm interested in!!

and due to all the above... is i'm drawn automatically to girls who - while they actually dont need help.. *I* think they do. Problems like: nymphos (not that most guys arent but these are the girls who cant help it- apprently- like cheaters etc), people with illnesses who dont effect their lives a LOT but are serious, loners, drug users.

And when I'm all formal, THEY act all formal and then boom....I 've changed so they get dis-interested.

Now.. normally trying to be less nice to people in general.. is not really a smiled upon thing. Well.. how do I become.. not so nice/polite/FORMAL to the girls I like.

After 16 years of dating (i'm much older than 16 lol) I have finally realized it...

My name is Dasani.... I'm a formal-holic. Now what the hellz are my 12 steps???


{edit} I need my self a Can't Buy Me Love - like girlfriend lol [/edit]

[Zaira]

I'd say you're definately going for the wrong types, because there are heaps of women looking for a guy just like YOU!

I think your friends are right - not that you will change, but more that you will feel comfortable being yourself and so will the girl - when you have found the right one

[kellyp1]

They need men like you out here. Keep the faith, you seem to be a genuine guy and when the right, hopefully hot, girl comes along, she won't let you go. Know that who you are is appreciated by a lot of women....

[kellyp1]

California needs MORE men like you here. I am not to be one saying there are not nice, genuine guys here just that there are not a lot.