[bicyclejunk]

I know if you're in a relationship with someone, ultimately, it's
YOU who is in the relationship and if you really love the guy/girl,
and you get along great, it shouldn't really matter what anyone
else thinks about them.

My mom can be a bit too critical and nagging and put a lot of
guilt on ya.... My wife is great and she's kind to my mom, she doesn't
go wayyyy out of her way to win tons of brownie points with my mom,
but she's respectful to her and has been nothing but nice.

But my mom kinda politely Nags a bit too much about the fact that my
wife (we just got married last feb., been together 4 years) is a nervous
gal, kinda shy, kinda quiet, etc. And it bugs me. My mom comes from the
school of "Call your Mom", "Respect your elders", "I better get a Card and
Flowers on Mother's Day, no matter what". And she always brags about
how so and so's girlfriend is "so good with kids" or how "Outgoing" my cousin's
wife is, not necessarily bringing up my Girlfriend's shyness in the same sentence,
but it's usually pretty obvious that she's sending subliminal messages.

But then again, My mom would probably know my Girl a lot more if she
hadn't moved away to New York three years ago with my dad. My dad
while were on the subject adores my girl. Thinks she's great. I mean
my mom adores my girl too, but she's just a bit too nit-picky about certain
things sometimes, i.e. My girl's Shyness.

Anyway, i was just wondering what y'all thought. IS this pretty common?
i'm working on getting my girl to overcome a bit of her shyness, but only
to better herself. She's no Mute or Nerve-wrecked wallflower or anything.
Just reserved, cute, quiet and mousey sometimes.

[westernxer]

Moms are a pain in the ass...

[circusfood]

i love your answers westernxer ,
straight and To The Point. There's truth there.

[morrigan]

In this case, your Mom is being b*tchy, if her major complaint about your wife is that she tends to be reserved.

I'd either ignore her crap, or the next time she starts to comment on your wife, tell her that (your wife's name) is a shy, but wonderful person, if your mom would take the time to get to know her better. Then change the topic or walk away--you can't change how your Mom thinks, but you don't have to listen to her complaints.

[alphamale]

from your ma's point-of-view, no one will be good enough for her little boy. accept this fact and move on with your married life.

if everyone gave great importance to what everyone else "thinks" then no one would leave the house in the morning.