I have been avoiding this guy for some time. He's very HOT but he's just too clingy on me and overbearing. I have been blatantly ignoring him and even still, he persists. He sent me an email last night asking if I was still alive and I told him I was, I just haven't felt like talking to people. This is what he wrote back, do you think this is weird or do you think this is nice? Is this guy a fruit loop for still calling me repeatedly and emailing like crazy?
good to hear your alive.
**** depression.... its a figment of your imagination.
break your internet addiction... start hanging out with a badass like myself.
I have tried you know. I do realize you dont want to date me at all.... thats fine; However, you are cool to hang out with and talk to.
so.... I would like to do so anytime to be honest.
chop chop... make it happen...
stop hunting lost souls and orbs...
stop hitting silent when I call...
do a handstand for 15 seconds...
let me draw a picture of you to replace the faith hill...
you are far more beautiful than her B... I just think you have no idea.
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Is this weird?
P.S. The Faith Hill comment...I have a drawing of her on my wall that I bought. When people see it they think it's me. I supposedly favor her. So in case you were wondering, that is what he's talking about.
The "hitting silent" when I call === How does he know!??!
handstand?
hunting lost souls? I did take a photo in my apt that had orbs in it...but....
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Either weird, or an unhappy poet in the making, XNemesisX.
I don´t like the parts where he seems to belittle your depression problems, and the self-proclaimed badassery of him. That is not the way I would try to build up a friendship (if not more), with someone.
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It looks like everyone is agreeing that hes a weirdo. I just don't know how to get him to go away! He's friends with some of my friends so I can't really make up a boyfriend...
Oh..you all think that one is weird...check this one out. He wrote this one last week after he came by my apartment (and I purposely) didn't answer the door.
So what's the story, morning glory?
sooo....
im not quite sure what to do actually.
I came over earlier and you where not there.... then I came over just a little bit ago and you where there but didn't answer the door.
no call. no you. hmmm.
I will do as you wish you know.
I would love to spend time with you; However, have no idea if you even what me around.
what should I do B?
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I have about 20 emails that are similar to this. Does this guy not get the hint? Btw..I did tell him I didn't want to date for a while. So, now he is trying to get me to hang out wtih him as "friends." How the heck do you tell someone like this that you don't even want to be their friend? It makes me feel like an a**hole to tell someone that, but he's just so friggin weird!
Originally posted by XNemesisX
How the heck do you tell someone like this that you don't even want to be their friend? It makes me feel like an a**hole to tell someone that, but he's just so friggin weird!
just tell him that if he does not leave u alone that your friend alpha from LS will come down an kick the sheeyot outta him
no, really, just send him a direct and straight fwd email saying there is no chemistry between u two and he needs to stop contacting you. or you could use one of your mutual friends to convey this msg to him.
You are well aware in what direction this obsession can and probably will turn. Already you are not comfortable with him, and the more he keeps this insanity up, the worse it will become for you.
Try writing him a clear email, that you are not intested in him, as a friend, and as a lover. You don't have to give all reasons, just keep it short. Also insist that you don't want to have any contact, in any form.
Block his emails, and refuse to take his calls. Refuse to meet him, and make at least certain that the people who you trust know a bit of what goes on between you and him - for safety reasons. If keeps on pestering, I would start to look at the legal options.
Chances are high, that he is becoming completely obsessed with you - not good. That warrants psychological treatment, but he will be the last person to see that .
I think it is time to stop with the sugar coating and just tell him thanks but no thanks. Some times you have to be mean to get through thick headed people! If you must have an excuse for the guy just tell him that you don't think men and woman can be friends and that you would prefer he leave you alone all together.
If all else fails I will gladly join alpha in a good LS 101 with this guy!
I agree with Tudor. Be upfront and direct. Tell him you are not interested. If he still persists, then I would be even more direct and tell him that if he cannot stop pursuing you that you will get a restraining order.
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just tell him that if he does not leave u alone that your friend alpha from LS will come down an kick the sheeyot outta him
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If all else fails I will gladly join alpha in a good LS 101 with this guy!
Thanks guys!
I think I like Alpha's idea on having my mutual friends relay this message to him. I just don't know what to expect from him. I suppose I could send him an email but I'm almost scared to piss him off. I don't think he's right in the head.
I failed to mention the email he sent me after I told him I didn't want to date him. Suddenly, his mother is dying of cancer. So of course I told him that anytime he wanted to talk about it I would be here for him. I guess this encouraged him even more to try to pursue a "friendship" with me. Comes to find out, NONE of our mutual friends had heard ANYTHING about his mother dying.
Does anyone think this is suspicious?
I'm sure that if I send him an email telling him I don't want to be friends with him either that he will throw his "dying mother" up in the air and guilt me. Should I call him out on it? I'm POSITIVE he will say something to me about being an a**hole not to be his friend or spend time with him because of his mother.
No don't call him on the mother who is suddenly dying of cancer. He will guilt-trip you more, and offer further rationalizations / confusion - and you need a clear mind.
He could write that in an email - but he could also tell that when a friend tells him to leave you alone - and that you offered to listen to him in the process about it.
Whatever means of relaying the message you choose (and that depends on your perception of the severity of his obsession), prepare yourself (and the possible person that may relay the message) for his behavior, so as not to give in, in any form.
Im having a hard time lately too... owning a business is so so hard at times. Even if its going great! odd thing... kinda hard to explain I guess.
I have had a lot on my shoulders lately..
and my moms health has been real bad, so im sort of stressed and worried and sad.
I was talking to her on the phone on my way to work this morning and I started to tear up a little... its the first time I have cried in a while, she didnt know it though.
****ing crazy!
blah... im not real sure why I just typed all that. It just hurts to know I won't have my mother much longer...
I have been wanting to hear more of AVB... I was diggin it!
I am also thinking about staying with my friend in ____ for a while off and on... you will have to see his place... I think you will dig the style a whole lot!
we should get together and have some drinks soon... well, tonight even. hehe
I think we can put together a fantastic resume for you... I dont want you to leave!
I know you don't want to date me, b. but we can be friends right. Would you like to hang out tonight?
I have been blatantly ignoring him and even still, he persists. He sent me an email last night asking if I was still alive and I told him I was, I just haven't felt like talking to people.
Like the others said, forget the 'blatantly ignoring him'. When he asked if you were still alive, you should have said yes and thanks for the note but you don't think you have much in common.
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I think I like Alpha's idea on having my mutual friends relay this message to him
Tell him yourself or else he'll think your friends are 'out to get him'. He won't believe them.
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I'm sure that if I send him an email telling him I don't want to be friends with him either that he will throw his "dying mother" up in the air and guilt me. Should I call him out on it? I'm POSITIVE he will say something to me about being an a**hole not to be his friend or spend time with him because of his mother.
So? Tell him you're very sorry, that his mom's doc will have contacts for support groups he might want to check into, and that you are not able to furnish that service for hime.
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Originally posted by XNemesisX
Does anyone think this is suspicious?
XNX....I think you should PM someone with this dude's name and address just in case they find you hacked up into 15 pieces in the trunk of some car. no, j/k
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How does he know!??!
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