[cubbbb]

well, i'm 32 freakin years old, and I'm just so frustrated that I should be so hung up on a girl that is sooooo obviously wrong for me (she's 39).. Its not a teenage/high school romance type of deal. I have had many relationships in my day and so has she.. I have dumped, been dumped and anything inbetween. She has as well.. She just has my heart twisted in a knot and I don't know why. We have little in common.. She is attractive but I have dated prettier ladies.. she only talks about herself and doesn't shut up about it lol... There is constant drama in her life that I don't want to deal with.... we have no common hobbies/interests.. I believe that we both have an addictive relationship.. We are broke up now, but its killing me, and probably her. We have reconciled about 5 times.. I don't want her anymore but just can't stop thinking about her.. I definately don't want to reconcile for the 6th time and do the whole process all over again.. Its wearing me down. help!

[ratzxvital]

You explained the situation... but what about your feelings? Sometimes you can have a world of difference in personality but still have this, well I don't know what to call it... connection.

You have to decide wheither to move on (even if it hurts), or go through all the crap again. If you do want to stay know it will take a lot of work and self exposure. The main question is.... is she worth it?

[jen_jen_heartbroken]

Okay, now that you've told us the reasons why you shouldn't be hung up on this woman, tell us why you are hung up on her. Sometimes it helps to clarify things and make good decisions by listing out all the pros and cons.

[Zaira]

I don't mean to be rude, but maybe you are just in love with wanting to be in love? Or you're afraid of being lonely if you let go? You need to ask yourself, what are the reasons I want this woman in my life, and if you can't think of any good ones then you need to snap yourself into reality and start thinking about yourself and YOUR own happiness. 32 is NOT old and there are plenty more mermaids in the sea

[ratzxvital]

Originally posted by ~Zaira~
I don't mean to be rude, but maybe you are just in love with wanting to be in love? Or you're afraid of being lonely if you let go? You need to ask yourself, what are the reasons I want this woman in my life, and if you can't think of any good ones then you need to snap yourself into reality and start thinking about yourself and YOUR own happiness. 32 is NOT old and there are plenty more mermaids in the sea

Good point. But sorry to say the mermaids are limited, there are many fish.......ahh but you can find yourself a mermaid.

[cubbbb]

thanks you all for your replies.. I guess I am afraid of being alone I guess as Zaira suggested.. I'm 32 but haven't been alone too much in my life. I moved out of my parents house when I was 20 (into my future wifes home) until i was 23, got divorced and went quickly into a relationship that lasted for 8 years (we're still friends), and then went into a 1 1/2 year relationship.. Ewww, now that I put it all down on paper i see what little self esteem i must have lol... I'm just looking for a true and lasting relationship. Maybe one of these days.

[cubbbb]

You explained the situation... but what about your feelings? Sometimes you can have a world of difference in personality but still have this, well I don't know what to call it... connection.>>>>>>>>>
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sorry, i can't figure out how to do the highlighted copy thingy Thats it.. I can hardly stand the woman, but I love her at the same time...... Anyone know what I mean... We have a connection that I can't explain. I haven't contacted her (its been a whole two days) , and nor will I in the future I just need her to get out of my mind so I don't do it once again I guess I just don't trust myself. ha ha.. I've been reading the posts for a few months. Probably sometime after the 3rd or 4th breakup I had.. lol.. Brutal on the soul.. Clean breaks are the only way I have learned I think...

[Miffy]

I know exactly how you feel when you sooooo wish you felt the way you did before you ever met that person - it's awful when you can't stop thinking about the other person, you know you could never be together but still the conection is there.