Last Chance to Leave - July

SweetSerenity · 28th June 2005, 8:40 PM

I thought your MM had already moved into your apartment? Isn't that what you told the other girls over on the "Some people have low standards" thread? Or at least thats what I thought you said. Has he still not made his move?

Moderator's Note: The first four posts in this thread were split from a different thread because they were off-topic, and were merged with this thread, to which they directly pertain.

Marie1973 · 28th June 2005, 9:19 PM

NO he hasn't made his move yet.
He lives in my apartment for the summer since his wife & 2 daughters
live down the shore the whole summer.

But i give him til the end of July to tell her & move in totally.

I am to the point where enough is enough already.
We have been together for 2 years & 8 months & the passed full
year he was supposed to leave his W, but hasn't.

I"m just about fed up.
So I might be joining the woman who wrote this post .

joodee · 28th June 2005, 10:18 PM

So Marie, is he spending the night at the apartment? That would say alot to me as to where this is all heading, I think.

Marie1973 · 29th June 2005, 9:21 AM

Joodee

Yes he spends as much time as he can at the apartment
& hasn't been down the shore to see his family.

So we will see, 1 last month!

Marie1973 · 29th June 2005, 10:24 AM

Hello All Again

Well guys July is just around the corner.
As you all know its the last chance for my MM to leave!

For those of u who are new, we have been together for 2 years 8 months now.
For the passed year he said that he was going to leave. Then he said definitely
by the end of July.

He has been living at my apt. for the summer, since his wife & daughters live down the shore
for the whole summer. He hasn't been down there once yet to visit.

So its now or never guys to totally leave & tell his W.

I'm to the point where if he doesn't leave, stick a fork in me I'm done!! I don't want this
relationship anymore come August if he didn't leave yet. I could only take so much!!
Its going to be tough, but I have to do it.

So guys, we shall see, I'll keep u all posted! Go ahead people rip me apart, I know its coming!!

ReluctantRomeo · 29th June 2005, 10:30 AM

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Originally posted by Marie1973
Go ahead people rip me apart, I know its coming!!

No ripping apart, just sympathy. I'm sorry. From what I understand, OWs get strung along a lot with these lines.

I hope it works out for you. If it doesn't, please walk and don't look back. And find yourself a nice guy who will be yours and yours alone. No cheating, no secrets.

ww · 29th June 2005, 10:34 AM

we never want to rip you.
we just try to express our opinions. tell how we see it.
best of the luck Marie!!!!

we are all here for you!

Owl · 29th June 2005, 10:38 AM

Perhaps I've misread this, but I had thought that it was 'until July'...now I'm reading 'by the end of July'.

Marie, you seriously should just put a line in the sand a LOT closer...and NOT move it at all anymore. Tell him that he's got a week to make it happen...he's had two years to make it happen, and there is NO REASON why he should keep this up any longer.

Just my thoughts...

Mz. Pixie · 29th June 2005, 10:57 AM

Hi Marie,

I was wondering where things were standing. Keep us updated.

confused4awhile · 29th June 2005, 11:16 AM

Marie all I can suggest to you is to read my current thread- these guys are good at doing what they have to - to contiue the double life and very seldom are THEY the ones that actually do anything to END the relationship whether you give them an ultimatum or not.

They're such good liars how will YOU know for sure if he ends it for good or not...trust me on this- from what I'm reading here he and his wife have a distant relationship anyway if they are living apart...it will be very easy for him to play both sides if he chooses to and even if he doesn't...will you be able to trust him???? Think long and hard about this ...as I said I know all to well on this one

Marie1973 · 29th June 2005, 12:46 PM

Wow guys i really thought i was going to get nasty replies.
Thanks for all your support, i'll need it.Thanks for your opinions I know I can get very upset
when I get ripped apart in the passed, sorry about that. Its a hard position to be in.

I will have to figure out a way to know for sure that he really left his W.
I guess if every single thing he owns is in our apartment, then thats a sign.

I will keep u all posted on what happens.

I will NEVER EVER get involved EVER again with a married man if this doesn't work out, NO MATTER
what my heart tells me. I learned a HUGE lesson with this one.

Once I hear married, I will run like HELL!!

newbby · 29th June 2005, 1:08 PM

marie honey, i dont know what to say, i think it'll take actually missing you for him to make his move. nothing has changed in your relationship, therefore i cannot see him changing things, remember he is a 40+ man, they dont like change.
for him to shift his a$$, you need a change in the dynamics of your relationship. you need to actually SHOW him what its like to not have you in his life. he has gotten pretty complacent, he knows what will happen, july will come he will give you an excuse, you will cry, maybe not see him for a little while, he will maybe leave you alone for a few days, so that you miss him, then he will contact you, say sweet words, say it breaks his heart to hurt you, say he is definetly leaving in september....
((hugs))

confused4awhile · 29th June 2005, 1:43 PM

<-------agrees with EVERYTHING NEWBBY is saying...it is true and thats is how it works.Sweeite even IF he moved all his stuff over there...what stops him from trying to make things right with his wife? Think about this.....do you want to worry about what he's doing every minute you aren't with him? It's easy to say you won't....but once you "have" them you do...as I Said I'm there and living it now

Marie1973 · 29th June 2005, 1:50 PM

Ok
my posts are all out of wack!!

Anyway, Yes i think it will take my MM to lose me & miss me to actually make his move, u r right newwby.
I totally agree with u there.

& there is NO WAY IN HELL that he is going to tell me September, I am soooooooooooooooooo done after July. No it was always the end of July not the beginning. Think u misunderstood.

THis passed June, I was PMS"ing soooooooooooo bad & was sooooooooooo fed up with my MM that I almost called it off before July. I honestly, really can't take anymore of this crap.

If he doesn't leave in July, I no longer what to be in this relationship anymore. This may sound crazy but my mother & father are making sure that I stick to my word this time. They aren't letting me forget that July is the deadline. & I promised them that after July I swear its over. I can't let them down!!

joodee · 29th June 2005, 2:31 PM

Marie, I know what you're feeling. Sounds like you are reaching your limit. I have a thread that I put up a few days ago, you might want to check it out if you haven't already. I think I told myself in the back of my mind that if my ex-MM didn't attempt to include me in his daughter's graduation festivities, I was completely gone. Cause that would tell me that he didn't want me there not because he's afraid of me getting near his daughter (I've only had distance "meetings" with her, and she and I got along great), but it was because he wanted to hide what was really going on between him and W, and that I should really settle for the crumbs of being 2nd.

Good luck.