wrote a girl I really like a letter, haven't heard back yet??

Tony427 · 28th June 2005, 10:54 PM

Okay here is the thing. There is this girl who I used to work with that I really like. A few weeks ago she quit her job to go away for the summer. I never got up the nerve to ask her out, her last day of work I almost did but I again chickened out. I didn't even ask her for an address or phone number to reach her at. Anyway after she left I realized how big of a mistake I had made by not telling her my feelings and went to her dad who also works at the same place I do and asked him for an address where i could contact her.

I wrote her a letter and mailed it relieved that I was finally getting this off my chest. About 2 days after I wrote her her dad tells me he talked to her on the phone and asked her if she had received her last paycheck that he had mailed to her and she told him they hadn't gotten mail for a couple days because someone broke into the post office. Now It's been 2 weeks since I wrote her and I'm not sure if she just hasn't written back or if maybe my letter got lost during the break in (this is a VERY small post office so its very possible for one person to break in and cause a lot of damage).

I guess what I want to know is 2 weeks long enough to wait before writing a follow up to make sure she got it. I don't want to seem too obsessed or anything but I really want to make sure she knows how I feel. I'm kicking myself now for not just telling her before she left but it's a little late for that now so I got to do what I can.

thanks for any help, I'd really appreciate it

laRubiaBonita · 28th June 2005, 11:02 PM

STALKER*****STALKER*****

ok, you have her address, that is just waaaaaaay to stalker-ish....what ever happened to looking up or finding out the cell phone #, or email address?

even though this IS easier to get the home address....... but ACTUALLY writing a LETter...OMG...this is SOOOOOO not the 20th Century!

who does that UNLESS they are already an item?

Tony427 · 28th June 2005, 11:09 PM

She's in a very small village it's not that easy, writing a letter is really the only contact I have. She's staying with someone out there and Im not sure of a name to look up for a phone number, and I don't think they have internet out there. I'm talkin very remote location with only about 100 people.

besides I would prefer a hand written letter from someone as opposed to an more impersonal email

shygurl · 28th June 2005, 11:19 PM

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Originally posted by laRubiaBonita
STALKER*****STALKER*****

ok, you have her address, that is just waaaaaaay to stalker-ish....what ever happened to looking up or finding out the cell phone #, or email address?

even though this IS easier to get the home address....... but ACTUALLY writing a LETter...OMG...this is SOOOOOO not the 20th Century!

who does that UNLESS they are already an item?

There's surely no need to flip out like this on the poor guy. It's not like he went through her trash to find her forwarding address, he got it from her Dad for crying out loud - her Dad obviously knows the kind of guy he is (because they work together) and wow, go figure, felt comfortable passing along her mailing address.

He already explained that she moved away.....so she doesn't live locally. I'm sure if his Dad had provided an email address, he'd have emailed her but he didn't. I think it's awfully sweet that someone would take the time to write a letter - it shows a lot of thought and effort....and most women would be very flattered that a guy went to the trouble of asking their Dad for their mailing address and writing them a letter. God, chill out.

shygurl · 28th June 2005, 11:23 PM

I think your safest bet would be to ask her Dad to ask her if she received a letter from you........I'm sure she'll tell her Dad if she did or not.....I think that's the only way you're going to know for sure. You wouldn't want to write her again if she DID receive it and has chosen not to write back........but it would be a shame to not really know if she received it or not. Seems like you get on good with her Dad.........so maybe try that?

laRubiaBonita · 28th June 2005, 11:24 PM

Sowwey

but, i would *think* if she WERE interested, she would have mailed you back, or called. and i do not know Alaska, but it does not take two weeks here.

Though, amybe just sit and twiddle your thumbs........maybe the sled dogs had a bad day....

Tony427 · 28th June 2005, 11:30 PM

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I think your safest bet would be to ask her Dad to ask her if she received a letter from you........I'm sure she'll tell her Dad if she did or not.....I think that's the only way you're going to know for sure. You wouldn't want to write her again if she DID receive it and has chosen not to write back........but it would be a shame to not really know if she received it or not. Seems like you get on good with her Dad.........so maybe try that?

This is kinda what I was thinking too.