[Sweets1919]

My bf of 8 months and I broke up almost two months ago. For the first week we talked every day or so...he kept saying that he didn't see our break up as permanent, that he still loved me, that he would take me on dates when he came to town (it was ldr). But then after about a week he did not reply to a text or two I sent. So a few days later he texted saying he hoped I was doing well. I did not reply and a couple days later he texts "are you mad...you did not reply" (Funny that he didn't seem to see a problem that he had not replied to MINE though!)

So fast forward month and we had basically had one text conversation (after two weeks of no communication), and communication ended at that point because he did not reply to my texts (in which I said I was OK with the breakup and that I saw it as a learning experience, was not bitter etc etc.) He called a week later and left an "excuse" as to why he had not called at all (I did not reply). I sent him another text a week after that (being friendly, I was on a trip) and he did not reply. I figured enough attempts on my part, I was feeling much happier when I was no longer thinking we still had even a "friendship" (because he was treating me worse than I'd accept from a friend) and have not called or texted at all in over two weeks.

So now he's been calling like crazy. He called my cell on Friday, texted me Sunday night, and called my work this AM, my cell twice this morning, my house this morning and this evening and my cell again this evening. I either missed the calls or did not pick up. He left messages saying "I hope you are doing good and I wanted to say hi. I guess u might be mad at me" and then on the evening message he says "can you call and just let me know you're ok. You have not answered any of your phones and I'm worried, just call to tell me you're ok, even if you are mad at me and don't want to chat"

**That last call was three hours ago and I have not replied. He and I know many mutual friends so if he was REALLY concerned that something had happened to me he could ask any of our friends if they've talked to me and if I'm "ok".

**This is the bf who only two months ago ditched me to go "party" with "guys" (though I suspect a girl may have been involved) for five days while lying to me about what city he was even in (we were supposed to go away together that particular weekend together), who says he let his new "buddy" use his credit card number to stay at a hotel in MY city (we were ldr and he is not even from my city...) during the five day "bender", and who continuously lied to me about what he was doing those five days. I know that as of two weeks ago he was seeing a new girl at his work (who I think he was seeing before we broke up)....she is "in love" with him according to our mutual friends who have heard about her. (He is a perpetual cheater so it doesn't surprise me that as soon as he has another girl "in love" with him that he starts calling the ex (me) again.) He does not know that I know that he is/was seeing someone new (the girl who told me no longer talks to him).

I don't want to get re-involved with him. I also do not want to have him keep calling me. However, seeing we do know mutual friends and we are from the same small hometown, I do not want to be totally rude and just tell him to f-off.

Suggestions???