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Old 26th June 2005, 3:28 AM   #1
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I need space

boyfriend of 2 months tells me he needs 8 day away from me to think with no calls..no hanging out.. to think about things...Do I consider us broken up??
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Old 26th June 2005, 4:04 AM   #2
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Take it at Face Value

I would, if I were you, merely take it at face value. Perhaps he just needs some time to assess where he is in the relationship so that he can decide if and where he wants to proceed.

Everyone needs time to decide. Eight days, afterall, is a very short time in terms of a cooling off period.

Any reason why he chose eight?
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Old 26th June 2005, 4:07 AM   #3
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he chose 8 as he wanted until the end of the month. Could you really go that long without talking to someone.. and then decide yes you want to be with them..? I am so worried as I feel that there is no hope. I feel after 8 days he will have gotton used to life without me... and decide to keep it that way.. Id love to hear your opinion Curt on this as you are a male.
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Old 26th June 2005, 4:54 AM   #4
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Re: curt

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Originally posted by bebegal
he chose 8 as he wanted until the end of the month. Could you really go that long without talking to someone.. and then decide yes you want to be with them..? I am so worried as I feel that there is no hope. I feel after 8 days he will have gotton used to life without me... and decide to keep it that way.. Id love to hear your opinion Curt on this as you are a male.
Sweetie, trust me on this much ... I could go a year if that's what it took me to do it (not that it would be fair to do so...it surely wouldn't...but...ya get my idea )

Don't worry about this, as it is clear that you can only do one thing if you still care for him... and that is wait 8 days. Also, it will take longer than eight days to forget you, if he still cares for you in that way.

Give him his time, and let him decide. Then you can decide what you want to do as well.

Go out with da girls... have fun, etc. Enjoy the summer days. Eight days may seem like a lifetime, but it'll go by fine if you don't dwell on things, and keep yourself busy.



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Old 26th June 2005, 5:07 AM   #5
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thanks curt. I will try. That is why i needed a guy's opinion cause I just do not get it. I do get what your saying. I will wait the 8 days then move on if need be
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