Repairing a marriage after an online affair.
For months, my wife has had an online friendship with someone I did not approve of. I found him way too flirty and thought he had a thing for her. Long talks online, even phone conversations... but without proof, I generally let it go.
Well, she went out to near where he lives a few days ago, but to visit a friend of hers that is in town.
When she was impossible to get ahold of, I looked in her work email account, to see if there was another number besides the one I had.
I found a transcript of an online sex session she'd had with him.
When I confronted her with it today, she put all the talk off until she returns home Sunday. I let her know though, that if she even thought about visiting him, not to come home, and she promised she wouldn't.
But I don't know what the deal's going to be when she gets here. I have absolutely no doubt that she also had phone sex.
I can forgive the actions, but I can't forgive the lying... not yet. But I love her enough that I'm willing to try.
Does anyone have any recommendations as far as to how to handle this? While it wasn't physical, it sure hurts... but I want our marriage to work.
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