I think if you're genuinely
happy with the way things are going, then it would be pointless to try and fix what isn't broken. But that's not to say you should fain indifference to those things that may give you reason to pause. Insuring your boyfriend's happiness should not come at the expense of yours. The best way to get what you want from a relationship is to have a deeper understanding of what it is you
don't want.
For instance, your boyfriend doesn't get to spend a lot of time with you because of outside interests. For now - you seem to be okay with that. But you must also consider the long-term prospect of that in the event that "free time" isn't something he'll be willing to compromise later (on his own) if your relationship progresses further. Knowing the contents of the package, will you still be willing to buy it
as is later on?
When the relationship is new and you're still feeling each other out, I always felt it was important to remember that what you see may very well be what you get. If you put out the vibe that you accept and "like" the person just the way are
now, then its unfair to try and change any aspect of them
after you've made the agreement to commit to a serious, monogamous relationship. It's better to take as much time as you need to have all that stuff worked out
before taking the next step. Some lifestyle changes will occur naturally between two people who genuinely want to be together, while others will require that you discuss your personal boundries and relationship expectations up front.
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he sometimes does things like comments on other women in front of me which i wonder if its an effort to make me a bit jelous, but i normally laugh it off and join in haha! but i wonder if he'd rather i react bothered just so it reinforces to him the way i feel about him.
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As far as commenting on other women in your presence, I
personally find it asinine, juvenile and sorely lacking in class. But that's just a pet peeve of mine because I hate seeing people mind ****ed like that.
I've known a few Neanderthals in my life, but even their mothers had taught them some manners. Perhaps he's trying to get a rise out of you - test his boundaries, so to speak - but it may also give you an important clue as to the quality of his character (maturity) and provide a good indicator of
future behavior. While I think making light of the situation was a far better response then getting upset and storming off, you may want to consider what kind of precedence this has set. Perhaps by laughing along you have sent him the message that this kind of behavior is "okay" with you. Maybe it is. But how would he know otherwise
if (???) you are sending mixed signals to hide the fact that you are vulnerable and capable of being hurt?
In this situation, sometimes the best response to indignant behavior is
no response. Sometimes, people will equate indifference with permissiveness. And once you allow something to happen too often, it can be difficult to pull it back once the minor irritant becomes a festering soar spot in the relationship.
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i'm quite happy if he's happy basically and i know he likes things to be easy, well thats the jist i get, so i'm trying to keep things nice and easy and fun for us.
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It seems that you are doing really well so far and are taking it slow and easy. That's good! But remember --- it's not just about keeping your boyfriend happy so that he'll stick around, it's also about making sure that Claire remains happy in her life, too.
Now, if all of that isn't sappy enough to make you lose your lunch, then maybe confessing this will: 
And it's because we love each other so much that we actually LIKE it! 
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