I have to see my ex face to face today for the first time in 7 weeks.... i mean i have seen him around work and at the gym but we just ignore each others presence and today I actually have to meet him in the parking garage so he can give me my things back that were left at his house... i am so nervous...
Say thank you and leave. There's no need for meaningless small talk or "catching up". Remain calm and confident even if you aren't. And be quick about it- or have one of your friends show up and collect the stuff for you.
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Originally posted by queenie01
Thanks guys..i plan to just get my stuff from his car, thank him and walk away...
Hopefully he wont try and talk to me..
If he does, politely say that you have something you are late for and that you really don't have time to talk. He's had seven weeks to say something- it's irrellevant now.
Well I met him at his car yesterday at 3pm and the first thing he asked me was "where did you go on vacation"
I just got back from Vegas so i told him... i didnt ask him anything about his life and we really didnt talk much. He was wearing the ring i bought him for Valentines day...which i commented on because he had lost it a couple months before we broke up.. he said he found it in the couch... dont know why he would still wear it tho, i wear none of the jewlery he gave me and im sure he noticed that. I was very calm and showed no emotions but when i got back to my desk at work i was soooo sad. I sent him a quick email thanking him for FINALLY bringing my stuff to me and he said no prob and sorry it took so long, then i told him it was sort of weird talking to him and he said "I know I felt it too"
Im just so sad because we didnt end on bad terms so its so hard for me to resent him, I still miss him so much but there is really nothing i can do to change things...i know if he wanted me back he probably would have said something... he told me that it seems like im doing well and i told him, im doing great and im happy (which i am...but part of me is missing - cant let him know that tho..) and i told him all the same goes for him and he didnt respond, he just said thats good to hear. I guess I just wish i knew if he was happier without me and how his life is etc...
I doubt i will never know tho and its so hard seeing him everyday at the gym and not being the old "us"
honestly i would love to give it another try just because our relationship was so awesome in my mind and i still dont really know why it ended...all he could tell me when he broke up with me was "something is missing from our relationship" He was pretty adament afterwards that there was no hope for us getting back together but that was immediately after the break up and i know it takes time for someone to miss a person. I guess I was sort of hoping that by disappearing for a bit he would miss me and realize he made a mistake...so far that hasnt happened.
I still love him with all my heart but he doenst know that...as far as he can tell, im doing great, partying and living life...
I havent inquired much about him so i dont know whats going on with him, other than he is doing great with his job and stuff...
i just wish he would have said something to me... it was very weird talking to him and he said he didnt think it was going to be that weird but it was...it was terrible...
Any suggestions on what i should do from here?
So sorry... I know your history is here somewhere, but its easier to ask...
How did you guys deal when it ended?
I gather from your posts that there has been no contact or limited contact?
It seems like the relationship finished and you guys have just been avoiding the subject - I gather that you may bump into each other at the gym, and at work... but what has happened when you've seen each other? Do you nod, turn the other way or do just avoid each other?
Basically to sum it up, i had the greatest relationship, so much in common,we never fought, had vacations planned etc... on thursday nite he text messaged me to say good nite and i love you and then on friday out of the clear blue he broke up with me, just said he didnt think it was working and that somethng was missing from our relationship.
So after that happened, the only communication we had was via email and it was slim to none, I tried to rationalize with him at first, telling him we could have tried harder etc...but he wouldnt change his mind... when we first broke up he changed his gym schedule but after 2 weeks he was back to our normal time..
I decided to just disappear for awhile so i changed my gym time and did everything in my power to avoid him. I suceeded and managed to not run into him for almost a month..
while i was in vegas he emailed me regarding my things and he would bring them to work for me...
so i responded when i got back and we arranged to meet...he commented on my tan, my guess is he was inquiring on where i went, but i didnt give him any info besided that i was on vacation..
then yesterday when we finally met up for the first time in almost 8 weeks, he asked where i went last week...so i told him. We barely talked tho and it was so weird...
Honestly i dont know where we went wrong or why it ended, im left with all these unanswered questions and yes i have to see him everyday at the gym and its super hard, we dont even say hi...
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