[Texas]

I've never used drugs (besides dip and beer) but I just broke up with a past coke user. I'll try to make this brief, but here is my story.....we met at a club and she lived in Houston, me in Dallas. We would drive every weekend. I knew right away that she used drugs in the past, we never talked about it much. 5 months after being together she told me she was high on coke the night we met. She claims that she hadn't used it since...now she's very thin, sniffles all the time and is very concious about her weight. I've never seen someone who always sniffles and I have allergies, I dont sniffle all the freaking time. She's also extremely moody, more than the average girl for sure. A year after dating I find a half straw right by her computer...confronted her about it and she flipped out and said I should trust her...we almost broke up then. She had odd eating habbits too, hardly ate a thing sometimes. Everyone she hung out with before she met me did coke. After she met me she never saw those people, but I suspect that she might have been using I just wish I could tell!! I"ve heard that people are very slick about using coke and nobody can tell, do you think she was probably using behind my back??? Oh ya, I remember one time she went to the bathroom for a long time..came out and she was really sniffling and was suddenly pretty darn happy and movin fast!! She seemed pretty wired all the sudden. Someone pls tell me what you think.

[RoxStar]

She may have been using but if she told you she was clean you have to either choose to believe her or choose not to. Only you can make that decision. You are no longer together now right? So what difference does it make at this point if she was using?

[Texas]

Hey Rockstar,

you are right, it shouldn't make a difference now but it just bothers the heck out of me. It just kills me, I have this feeling she was using the whole time and lying about it. I wish I could prove it somehow, it would make me feel better about not being with her, you know?? I'm also worried about this girl, especially if she's still using the drug. We might get back together, this isn't our first breakup...I just want to know if I've been a fool this whole time thinking she's clean. I have more stories I could tell too. I'm going to let it go, I don't really care what she does, I just hope she's not using anything.