[HokeyReligions]

Watching a Train Wreck

I’ve mentioned this young woman at work before. She’s had some issues with former boyfriends. She’s a sweet girl and funny and she’s no dummy in some respects, but for being 26 years old, she acts like an 8th grader!

1. Her ex is getting remarried. She hacked into his email account and began sending bogus emails to his fiancée. Caused some problems for them. She got upset when she read that they thought her a royal b1itch so she pretended to be the fiancée and called and cancelled their cable installation/service. Got caught. Lived through it. They have changed their email accounts now.

2. She dates a lot now. She will go out with anyone. She met a guy at a gas station and went out with him. She bought something over ebay and met the guy to pick it up and went out with him. A couple of times. She said she liked him; he had potential for being a long-term relationship. She started spying on him in some on-line friendship circle or something and found out that he’s married. Myself, her boss, another co-worker all strongly suggested to her to cease any contact with him—she’d only been out a couple of times and he was a cheating sleaze. Who knows how many others he’s been with, etc. yadda yadda yadda---you know the routine.

3. The guy keeps calling and emailing her and she keeps RESPONDING!! She says she is just messing with him because she was played and she is angry and doesn’t like to be played, but she won’t leave the guy alone and then gets all up the air like it’s a grand joke when he contacts her. “Guess who called me? I can’t believe he would keep calling me after I busted him!!”

“Block his number and email so he can’t keep contacting you”

“OH NO! Let him dig in deeper, this is fun.”

“Let it go, the more you allow him to contact you, the more he thinks he has a chance with you. Besides, you are wasting YOUR precious time on someone you know you can’t trust, and think about how his wife would feel”

“I don’t care about his wife, its too bad she got stuck with a loser, but it’s HIS choice to contact me and I’m only returning his calls”

“You have no compassion for his wife?”

“Nope” (said with glee) “He’s her problem, not mine and there isn’t anything I can do for her”

“Are you thinking of telling her about him?”

“No, of course not—I don’t want to get in the middle of it!”

“Who are you calling now?”

“I’m returning his call! I wanna know what he wants”


All I can do is tell her not to do all this stuff during work and then sit back and watch the wreck.
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Ladies, PLEASE don't do this to yourselves!

[blind_otter]

Word. If you don't respect yourself how can you expect anyone else to?*

*I learned that the hard way

[Artifact]

I'm 25, and I can't even imagine acting like this!

Geez, I guess the "big wreck" isn't far off?

[laRubiaBonita]

Originally posted by Artifact
I'm 25, and I can't even imagine acting like this!

Geez, I guess the "big wreck" isn't far off?

i am 26, and i have seen the wreck, so i opted to drive myself!

[EnigmaXOXO]

You know, Hoke. There are just some things in life that can't be learned academically. I figured out looooong ago that intellectual intelligence is no substitute for common sense or just plain ol' experience. At twenty-something, I doubt most of us knew our ars from a hole in the ground, but because we were now "grown-ups" we thought we had life all figured out.

Man, if I could go back in time having learned what I know now, there are A LOT of things I would have done differently. (Crap…I'm turning into my mother!)

I guess that's why they say: "youth is wasted on the young."

But you know, all of us have beaten our heads against a brick wall for that friend or younger person wanting to keep them from tripping up and learning things the hard way like we did. Then again, when someone tried to warn us, we never listened either. Sometimes we still don't.

I don't know, I just surrendered myself to the fact that those hard (and sometimes painful) lessons NEED to be experienced before any of us can really learn. And the best that you can hope for is that we (and others) survive them without any irreparable damage to the remainder of our/their life.

Live and let live … but that doesn't mean you can't try or say later: "Ah ha! … I told you so!"

Now that really pisses them off.