Out of Sight Out of Mind, or Absence Makes the Heart Grow Fonder?

DesertDweller · 1st June 2005, 12:51 AM

Just thought I'd take a poll. If I'm separated from someone, I'm guilty of out of sight out of mind. I think it might be because I lost so many family members when I was a kid. You learn to accept that they're gone and aren't coming back. Anybody else?

kkat · 1st June 2005, 12:57 AM

I think for me, I have found that my survival instinct kicks in and my addiction tendency tapers off. When I disconnect from someone, e.g. MM, or others, for a period of time and get them out of my daily habit, I become very out of sight out of mind.

I have girlfriends I speak to on the phone everyday and when I go on vacation or when they are away I jones for the morning klatch routine. But, if I get out of the routine for more than a few days, I almost move on....

PS Tried to PM you on a different topic but it didn't work.

DesertDweller · 1st June 2005, 1:10 AM

Hi. Glad to see you're here. Glad to know you're like me with the out of sight out of mind. Actually, I'd heard that with women, that was typical, whereas with men it was absence makes the heart grow fonder. And it's been true in two cases for me. Both guys decided they wanted to get back together with me months after we broke up.

DesertDweller · 1st June 2005, 1:20 AM

Hi again, kkat. I checked to see if I could receive PMs and the box was checked. So I don't know why it wouldn't work...

kkat · 1st June 2005, 1:30 AM

maybe try to pm me?

I think it is true - it seems to be the case with men I have been involved with as well. Ah, Mars, Venus - you crazy planets you.

Mr Spock · 2nd June 2005, 3:11 AM

Unfortunately out of sight out of mind doesn't apply to someone who loves obession

I have excellent memory skills so it really takes years for me to put things behind me.

moimeme · 2nd June 2005, 4:02 AM

If someone's in my heart, that person is in my heart.

Syncerity · 2nd June 2005, 4:08 AM

yea i think i am the same way as kkat...if i get them out of my daily habit then it is a out of sight out of mind thing..i mean occasionally ill think of them, but not like oooooooh im so in love and daydream, itll b a simple thought of hmm wonder how theyre doing, and then its done with... like i used to talk to this MM everyday and night and then he got ultra busy and whanot(he's in the military gettin ready to come home) and so we havent spoken in like 3weeks mayb and now im seein that i didnt really like him, and that my heart isnt growing fonder for him...