Opinions wanted, especially guys . . . call-back etiquette
Call-back etiquette:
Opinions please. Met a guy last Friday who seemed very nice, from out-of-state but comes to town on business. We exchanged numbers, and he called me last night but didn't leave a message. That confused me, because I don't know why he would bother to call and not leave a message.
Should I call? Or wait for him to call me again.
I am interested, but not sure how to approach the situation. I know this may seem trivial, but it has been a while since I met someone I liked and I don't want to read to much into things.
wait and see if he calls again maybe he doesn't like leaving messages or something.............. or he could have rehearsed what he was going to say to you when you picked up so much but got caught of guard with the vm and he drew a blank and just hung up
Ahh, I see. I guess if he doesn't call again then he isn't interested?
I just don't know what you are supposed to do in the age of cell phones . . . are you supposed to call back when you know they called because they are on the caller ID? Or if he wanted me to call him back, would he have left a message. . . .
I don't know, but maybe the panic thing was the proper call . . .
Thanks for your answer NTB
Last edited by ntovrhm; 31st May 2005 at 3:17 PM..
Give him 5 days to call back and after that you can assume he is not that interested.
Another interesting choice is to call him tonite ( I would if you like him ) and say " Joe I just wanted you to know I had a nice time and hope you are doing well " Thats it.
If he likes you he will return a courtesy call and maybe a future date.
If he does not call back ..then you have your answer.
If you want to talk to him... call him back. You have his number. You have a record of his call, that's enough of a message to know that he tried to talk to you. I can't say why he didn't leave a message, but it doesn't really matter, because you won't scare him off by returning his phone call.
Why are women sooo discouraged from doing even the slightest bit of chasing? I swear, if it was any worse, girls would just sit in their houses and wait for Fabio to show up with a million bucks and a marriage proposal. If you like him, call him, simple 'nuff.
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Thank you for your responses. By way of more information, I guess I'm kinda nervous about scaring him off. I am pretty forward when I like someone, and was the first to give him my number, and then he gave me his card.
Toss up between letting him chase me (which I have heard men like to do, for the challange) or me just biting the bullet and showing my hand early. I guess I'm torn, because I don't think there is any way he wouldn't know I was into him. That's why the "no message" thing has me confused.
God, I feel like a high schooler having this issue, but I guess I just wanted to have a sounding board for this one before I screw it up!
I just like this one, and that doesn't happen that often . . .
Originally posted by ntovrhm
I guess I'm torn, because I don't think there is any way he wouldn't know I was into him.
LMAO ... I can think of at least one good way that he wouldn't know ... He's a guy.
We're notoriously bad at decoding a woman's signals.
Just my $0.02.
Curt
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Believe it or not, there is a school of thought that says never leave a message on a woman's machine until you are a couple.
It isn't a bad thing that he didn't leave a message at all. It doesn't mean anything one way or another. He'll call back. He wouldn't have called at all unless he was interested.
Keep some measure of challenge, though, or you run the risk of wigging him out.
I bet he called once, was hoping you'd answer...but he got the answering machine. He knows calls are saved, so he doesn't want to appear needy/desperate so he'll wait another day or two to try again.
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