Can it get any worse than this???

beejsea2 · 31st May 2005, 12:52 PM

Seven months ago my ex left me. I have detailed the break-up on the breaking up section if you need to see the history.

Well today I find out that my ex has asked a woman that he meet on the Internet and has not meet yet to marry him. I know that I'm 100 times better off without him but this was a punch in my gut that I wasn't expecting...

Anyone else have this happen to them??? I was with him for 4 1/2 years and thought our relationship was good.

Treasa · 31st May 2005, 12:53 PM

Yeah, kind of. Not exactly, but close. They broke up about four months after finally meeting, and by that point I was over him and realizing what an idiot he was, and how lucky *I* was to be free.

snoop_dawg22 · 31st May 2005, 12:56 PM

It happened to me!

Although they work together and have only been dating for 3 mos. He calls to let me know that they will be getting married in Vegas come July. At first it hurt b/c that was something we talked about doing but like the last poster said... I'm glad and happy to be free of him. It hurts now but in due time you'll be over it and over him! It sucks though.

beejsea2 · 31st May 2005, 12:59 PM

Thanks for the replies!! I don't even know why I care!! I'm seeing a very loving person right now and I shouldn't care what my ex does...it's the same line that he feed to me though...wanting to get married right after we meet.

Part of me feels that I should warn this woman about him and all the lies he has been living!!

debs · 31st May 2005, 1:08 PM

beejsea2 like she would listen to an ex? Oh no! Let her learn the hard way by experience!

I feel for you because I know what your feeling! One day it just won't hurt as bad as it does when you hear things about how he is doing!

Fallen_Angel · 31st May 2005, 1:12 PM

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it's the same line that he feed to me though...wanting to get married right after we meet.

Sounds as though he's not too creative. You're lucky to be rid of him...and you said you've found love elsewhere, so yay!

I have to tell myself things could ALWAYS be worse. I could be starving. Or homeless. Someone out there would WANT to be in my situation!

beejsea2 · 31st May 2005, 2:49 PM

I know that I'm so lucky to be done with him. I guess it pisses me off that he could walk away from me so easy...when we were in a fight before he left he gave me this line of bull about it would kill him if we broke up etc.

I guess I never thought he was a creep!! Live and let learn huh??

Fallen_Angel · 31st May 2005, 3:38 PM

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...when we were in a fight before he left he gave me this line of bull about it would kill him if we broke up etc.

Funny, the things they say...I was told "I couldn't ever imagine you leaving my life; if something ever happens to us..." blah blah blah.

Now all of a sudden he's too "busy" to call me.

Men. So damn stupid. They say one thing...

(Yell at me all you want for being bitter, but right about now I think I'm justified!)

beejsea2 · 1st June 2005, 8:24 AM

Fallen_Angel

Be bitter all you want. I recently finished seven months of therapy and I told my counselor that I was in the "bitter" stage. She said that there was nothing wrong with that.

This morning I shake my head and wonder why I even let the fact that he's getting married bother me. Maybe it's just the finality of it all....I thought after 4 1/2 years together the second longest relationship he has ever been in (with ex wife 8 years) that I deserved more than hearing through former workers that he was doing this.

tokyo · 1st June 2005, 8:40 AM

It might be pure desperation, you never know. The fear to be unable to maintain a healthy relationship makes him leap into another relationship as fast as he can, so his doubts and fears won't overwhelm him as they did before. It's the fool who rushes into things, because he's afraid to stop and question what his true feelings are, of seeing the emptiness inside of him that he can't fill with anything but another relationship.

LucreziaBorgia · 1st June 2005, 8:42 AM

Honestly... I feel more sorry for his bride-to-be. What a ride she's in for, eh?

beejsea2 · 1st June 2005, 9:50 AM

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Honestly... I feel more sorry for his bride-to-be. What a ride she's in for, eh?

That's what I was thinking. He knows her three months and they're getting married. Oh well at least he'll be someone else's problem and not mine!!

Fallen_Angel · 1st June 2005, 11:23 AM

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at least he'll be someone else's problem and not mine!!

Damn straight!! Let her deal with it.

Mz. Pixie · 1st June 2005, 2:43 PM

Actually, yes, it could be much worse. You could have a fatal illness, be unemployed, homeless, or have a death of a close family member.

Just remember when it seems hopeless THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

beejsea2 · 1st June 2005, 3:25 PM

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Actually, yes, it could be much worse. You could have a fatal illness, be unemployed, homeless, or have a death of a close family member.

I know that I'm lucky on the aspects of things could be bad but I was talking about in retrospect to my relationship and break-up.

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Just remember when it seems hopeless THIS TOO SHALL PASS.

It already has...some days the roller coaster ride is a wild one!!