[pippen_2k]

Man I made an absolute fool of myself last night!

Id been doing preety well of late coping, but last night when I was out with a few friends, my ex girlfriend rocks up to the same place with her sister and 3 other guys.

We talked for a bit there, but the distance between us was unbearable for me so I told my mates I had to leave and I went home.

I got the sads when I got home and was in tears, and then I did the stupid thing of Texting her spilling my heart to her, and how much she was ***ing me up!... STUPID!

She called me 10 mins later saying I was being an idiot! ( which I was ), but said after that we will talk tomorrow about things face to face.

It was really more than I could handle seeing her last night..and being a little drunk at the time didnt help much either. IF she shows up to my place later today its gonna be a very uncomfortable talk between us, but I need the TALK to sort this crap out.

We have still kept in contact a little since the breakup and have had sex a few times... but its the constant 'keeping me hanging' thats killing me. She still calls me babe alot, says she is thinking about me, and sleeps with me....and then I get the big avoid! It really just messes me up!

I had to vent this out..I just cant sleep tonight!

This is gonna be hard when she comes over later to talk to me... Thats if she shows up!.She cancells on me alot.....

[Angeleyez2583]

Hold up. You're NEVER going to get over or her get her back by sleeping with her, hanging out with her, etc. You need to just let her go and stop talking to her completely. If she calls you to tell you she's coming over, be like, I made other plans, sorry. You need to make her feel unimportant in your life, and that you have moved on and don't need her.

I know this is hard. I have started NC with my ex. I guess I'm not doing total NC, just I set an initiative for him (he said he wanted to hang out as friends) so he's gotta be the one that calls me now. If he doesn't, then I guess he doesn't want me to be in his life, and I sure as hell don't want to be with him.

[Fallen_Angel]

One of my friends gave me loads of great advice when my ex broke up with me, and one of the things she addressed concerned how people tend to keep up some aspects of a relationship after it's over. You don't want a relationship where the other party gets to call all the shots (ie. she decides when she wants to sleep with you, or even be around you for that matter). Stand up for yourself - you're worth it!

[Jadey]

Im sorry to say, and so bluntly but, She only wnats you for sex. Thats all she wants by the sounds of things. She calls you babe and all that BS to keep you sweet, so to speak She does it so that when shes horny she can call you up and youre there. I swear as much as i love my ex andwant to make love to him, i would NEVER sleep with him unless he wanted a relationship with me, nnnnnnooooo way. Angeleyez is right you need to stop hangin out with her IMO..

Its hard but it will show her.

Good luck!

[pippen_2k]

Its been a week since I started this thread.and lets just say she never showed up the following day for that talk!

I was very sad and dissapointed cause she did give me her word! So I sent her a big nasty text message and I havnt heard from her since!

I got home last night ( after drinking ) and I was messy again.. all sad... I dont know why but I messaged her appoligising for the way I acted....

I shouldnt be appoligising cause she is the one that treated me like **** too... but I just got that soft spot for her... silly hey

My mate Ian asked me the other day..when was the last time she did anything good by me and made me happy?... I really couldnt answer that question..... she brings me nothing but misery but still im a sucker for her...

just feelin a lil low today so I thought id post in here instead of doin nethin silly...

I probably wont hear from her again..which does make me feel bad...but I guess in the long run it probably will be for the best