I am looking to switch jobs in the next few months. I currently live in Seattle and have some possibilities here as well as around the country, most notably Florida. There's a guy I sorta know who lives in Florida, we were introduced through a mutual friend, and we hung out a few times (it got physical) several months ago. Since then we've kept in touch and seem to dig each other. When I went out to Florida two months ago for a job interview, we made plans to meet up. When we did get together, we had some drinks and hooked up. He wanted sex, but I said not yet. I ended up staying in Florida for about a week, with the assumption that we'd get together again, and we did. He came out to meet me for a drink over the weekend even though he was feeling kinda sick (so he claims). We didn't hook up that night, but he still gave me the impression that we'd get together again. Well, the next few times the opportunity presented itself, he said he wanted to meet up but couldn't because of not having money (he's currently unemployed) or having an interview or class or something.

We never saw each other again for the duration of my trip. I felt totally blown off. What did I do? Come on too strong by asking him out a few times? He wanted me to call him! Why would he not make more of an effort to see me before I left? He seemed interested in whether or not I'd be moving out to Florida if the job stuff worked out. Maybe that scared him off...

He seemed totally into me for such a long time. What would cause someone to pull a 180 in such a short time frame?

Any insight here would be much appreciated, especially from the guys (looking to you, especially alphamale!).

[DesertDweller]

Hi. Why do you assume you did something wrong? We women are always blaming ourselves! It sounds to me like he might have a fear of committment, or he has a girlfriend, or he only wanted sex. Whatever, he's not worth it. Hopefully the guys will come on and post some good advice.

Thanks for your reply. I just can't believe he has a girlfriend, he doesn't seem sly enough to lead me on while having someone on the side.

Maybe he thought I was after something long term and freaked out and decided to pull back so that I wouldn't be led on. But whatever, if he really liked me, these things wouldn't be an issue, right?