Ok...right before my ex and I broke up I met this guy.
He was VERY attractive...looked just like Colin Ferrel. I went out with him..we had a GREAT time. He called me several times after that and for some reason I flaked out and never called him back. I think I just wasn't over my ex yet and I didn't have the energy to try to really date someone yet.
I even got a little resentful at Colin Ferrel guy because this is part of the reason my ex left me. He was very angry over Colin. I sent him a text message saying "well Nick (my ex) won't even talk to me now because of the night we went out." He just wrote back "You shouldn't have told him. Call me. "
I never called him.
So fast forward about 5-6 months. My friend and I went to the restaurant where he works and I started drinking LIT's like they were going out of style. I asked our waiter if "Colin" was there. He said yep, and said he would go find him. Well a few minutes later, he comes to our table and sits down next to me and is really nice and friendly. He talks to us until his manager comes over to get him so I think that we almost got him in trouble. Well...one LIT after another I drank..I got so carried away that I didn't even notice the restaurant had been closed for an hour and I was still drinkin like an alkie. ARRRGGGHHH I'm such a dork!
So I don't see "Colin" again because he disapeared somewhere. My friend and I left and I was saying how I wish I had called him back and that my ex wasn't worth missing my chance with this fine, sweet guy. So she told me to leave him a note on his car.
My friend wrote it for me and I put it on his car and it said:
"Hey it was nice seeing you again. Give me a call sometime. (wrote my # again and signed my name) Then at the bottom it said
P.S. Tell our waiter we are sorry for taking too long"
Well..tomorrow that will have been 1 week ago!!! Did I just really **** up?
Originally posted by Marshbear
I believe you were one of the ones that said you gave your number to guys with no intention of dating them because you couldn't say no.
Well, I think this is the same situation.
Welcome to the big leagues.
Peace...
What do you mean?
This guy asked me for my number first, as long ago as it may have been. I pretty much blew him off and now I regret it. I just wasn't ready yet. So he didn't ask for my number again or anything, I just took it upon myself to leave the note on his car and I was trying to convey to him that I was ready to talk again. It's not like I am calling him. I'm leaving the ball in his court if he wants to give me another chance or not. i hope he does, but I guess I may have messed this one up a long time ago.
Oh well. I guess after a week he would have called if he was going to...even though I took several months to finally show some interest back to him. Think he is just thru with me now?
Last edited by XNemesisX; 25th May 2005 at 12:35 AM..
If you want to talk to him, and still don't have his number, you could always go back there and try to find him again. Better to tell him to call you, face to face, I think. He may never even get the note you left.
This guy asked me for my number first, as long ago as it may have been. I pretty much blew him off and now I regret it. I just wasn't ready yet. So he didn't ask for my number again or anything, I just took it upon myself to leave the note on his car and I was trying to convey to him that I was ready to talk again. It's not like I am calling him. I'm leaving the ball in his court if he wants to give me another chance or not. i hope he does, but I guess I may have messed this one up a long time ago.
Oh well. I guess after a week he would have called if he was going to...even though I took several months to finally show some interest back to him. Think he is just thru with me now?
If a guy is interested he will find a way to contact you. You took a step in leaving the note to tell him your interest and now it is up to him ( as you stated ). I don't know if you blew it with him before because if a guy is interested and he knows the girl wants to hook-up he will call her. It might be that he has a G/F or his interest has changed from before. If it's been a week and he hasn't called I think he's through with you.
I only meant that when you leave a note and the person doesn't call (and you have built up this nervousness inside and you want them to call) it is such a let down when they don't respond. You took the chance and it didn't pan out. I hope you take your own advice and realize that he isn't interested and don't try to make up excuses for his lack of interest. There are plenty of fish so go bait your hook for a new one.
Originally posted by XNemesisX
Well..tomorrow that will have been 1 week ago!!! Did I just really **** up?
yes XNX and i will tell u why. cause CF guy thinx that u are ****ing with his head. You should call him and explain the situation just like u did here on LS and then maybe he will go out with you again. but don't expect much and if you two do hook up again he may want to get back at you for blowing him off 6 months ago.
but it is worth a shot. just don't leave notes on cars, it's gay*
In my opinion, leaving the note wasn't a the mistake, but maybe the message was. You've already participated in the ritual of him pursuing you by calling, however your lack of response basically translated as disinterest on your part. Giving him the number again, like you've done before, really doesn't inform him of the situation. If it were me and I received the note, I'd wonder to myself why you left it since you didn't return my call the last time. I'd assumed you just liked the chase and I wouldn't call again.
If you're really interested - talk to him face to face. Tell him why you didn't call back and let him know you're not playing games. I'd say you have a 50-50 chance that the response could go either way - either he gives it another shot or he declines.
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Well,..Im not sure. ..............did he WITNESS you drink a million Long Islands? That may be it. Someone who can drink that much and still function suggests you drink quite a bit to have that big of a tolerance for it. Maybe he was turned off by how much you put away. And the fact that you stayed past closing continuing to drink prolly didnt help...........Im not saying you drink too much,..Im just saying that situation may have painted you in a bad light.
Originally posted by scarlyjones
Well,..Im not sure. ..............did he WITNESS you drink a million Long Islands? That may be it.
Maybe he was turned off by how much you put away.
I don't know SCARLYJ.....most dudes I know start to salivate when they see a chick downing drinks like there is no tomorrow. Personally, I would think "CHA-CHING!".
Most of the women I have met who like to drink (but are not alcoholix) are fun and like to have sex a lot
grrrrrrrrrrrrr................I didnt mean that to sound like Im calling her one!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Im just giving that out as a possible explanation, thats all. But,....yeah,...you're right about that I guess. I know I was "easier" when I got looped. .........Hopefully, she put the note on the right car.
This happened to me. I was a dork with one dude I was seeing a while ago, December before last. I just kinda stopped calling him because I hooked back up with my exboyfriend. I've run into him a few times and told him to call me but he wouldn't, I think because I seriously ****ed with his head by never calling him back last year. Now he is friendly to me when we see each other out, but that's it. The interest is still there but he's like, **** that beyotch, she's a flake.
So -- chalk it up to experience and if he does call, you scored. Can you call him? Do you even have his number? If you pursue him maybe he'll change his mind.
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It was a bad move leaving the note. To me, it reeks of toying with him or stalker potential (but that maybe be because I've had creepy guys leave notes on my car before).
I'm sorry, but if he hasn't called you yet, I think you blew this one. You should have told him when he was at your table talking to you that you really wanted to appologize to him for your behavior 6 months ago and asked him to call you later so that you two could talk about it. You should have been up front right then. That would have given him a clearer idea of what was going on than just a note.
At this point, you could call him, but you've already left him your number and asked him to call, so you may look desperate if you do. He also wouldn't be able to tell that you were being genuine like he would in person.
If you really want to get with him, maybe you could give it a few weeks or so and then drop by where he works (if it's somewhere you might go normally) and if you happen to see him, say hello and try to redo the conversation you blew last time. He may not be willing to give you another chance though.
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.........Hopefully, she put the note on the right car. 
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