[Gala242]

I've been single for what seems like ages, and i have preoccupied my self with the lack of women by masturbating. I do it on a regular basis.

When i first started i only did it when i became sexually frustrated or extremely lonely.

The thing is now i find myself not even looking or becoming interested in finding or meeting women anymore, and sometimes i even think i'm starting to prefer just masturbating instead of trying to meet women.

I recently met this girl who was interested in me but i wasn't interested in her but the thing is she was good-looking, and in the past i would have gone out with her no problem.

I think that i have founf myself enjoying masterbating more then the real thing

Is that even possible? Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by Gala242
Is that even possible?

Definitely GALA242. Try cutting back for a few months to see what happens.

[johan]

Is that even possible? Has this ever happened to anyone else before?

I thought it wasn't possible, but you're making a good case. And no it's never happened to anyone before. You're the first, freak!

Just kidding..

Maybe the memory of the real thing has faded for you, but the reality and instant gratification of your method is filling your need for orgasms. Maybe you don't need the kind of close companionship that a relationship brings. You may have just found a comfort zone and aren't really feeling the urge to make any changes.

I once went for two years without a date, and to be honest toward the end of that time I was quite comfortable never approaching any woman no matter how desirable she was. At first it was fear and insecurity that kept me down, but after a while I just stopped challenging myself. And so I had no other choice but to occupy my own time.

If you truly want a relationship someday, don't let yourself get so self-centered that it will take a total battle with your next woman to get you to be an equal in a relationship with her. You can get so set in your ways that your ability to tolerate a woman in your space will go way down. And then good luck finding someone strong and patient enough to stay with you.

As far as the masturbation vs. reality thing, no the real thing is better. But that will also take adjustment if you train your body to only respond to your own stimuli. And it will take some time to sharpen your non-solo bedroom skills.

Challenge yourself a little bit and start making contact. Women are actually pretty great after you get to know them.

[westernxer]

As a friend so eloquently put it, your hand doesn't give you any attitude.

Trust me, you'd have gone for that girl if you were looking for something deeper (happens to me a lot, too... no, I'm not saying this to boast). The fact that you enjoy masturbating has nothing to do with it. Guys do it because, like drive-thru, it's fast and easy. You won't even miss the halftime show or part of the third quarter.

[friend182]

Since there are no real names here I will tell you the truth.

I have a very sexy husband and he is good in bed, however I also have a vibrator that is always ready when I am. I don't have to talk to it, or be nice. I don't have to blow it or return any favors.

I have to watch myself because I can be quite satisfied without my husband. He has threatened to hide it!!

You may have to hold off for a little while. It is tough, but you need to get back into the game!!!

[alphamale]

Originally posted by westernxer
As a friend so eloquently put it, your hand doesn't give you any attitude.

it may....if you are older and arthritis is setting in