[ClassiFemme]

I'm a 22/F, my ex is a 21/F and the other chick is a 21/F. My girlfriend (5 years total, 2 years cohabitating) and I had two weeks where we had a threesome every night with one of her female friends and it all ended in the two of them getting together and me getting dumped. They aren't "together", but they might as well be because they spend all of their time together, they have sex, etc...

My ex and I currently share a 2 bed/2 bath apartment, where we have 2 bedrooms but always slept together in one bed or the other everynight. After the whole 3some thing blew over, she's had the new chick over every single day and every night in her bedroom and refused to communicate with me at all. This has been a really unhealthy situation for me so I am moving to my own 1-bedroom on the 1st. This is a confusing time because my ex treated me like **** until she realized I really am leaving, and now she's kind of coming around. She calls me saying she misses me, she's sorry, she wants hugs, wishes I wouldn't leave, knows she ****ed up really bad, etc... She doesn't want to be in a relationship with anybody and I don't either, but I know we both love eachother a lot. She wants to stay in touch, but I'm leaning more towards NC.

I think she's feeling this new chick because I was her first girlfriend and we've been together for 5 years. She's never experienced sex with another woman, let alone a friend who she gets along well with. I know she loves me and ultimately wants to wind up with me and understand her need to experience a little bit more before settling down. She says things like "I need to experience things and grow up to be who you deserve". I believe that she really loves me and wants to be with me, but on the flip side I think I'm just fooling myself and after I move out, I should never speak to her again. Help!!!

[westernxer]

You shouldn't tie yourself down so early in life, especially in city like Los Angeles. This place has women galore.