[ltomlinson81]

I have a question for the guys:

If you meet a girl in a bar or out somewhere and she doesn't go home with you, will that give you any additional incentive to call? Do you have any more interest or intrigue in a girl who won't go home with you, as compared to a girl that will?

I met this guy this weekend at a bar, but wouldn't let him come home with me. I am hoping he'll call, but I am wondering if he will...

I know this question may sound silly, but I am single for the first time in a while, and would like to know your thoughts...

[alphamale]

Originally posted by ltomlinson81
I met this guy this weekend at a bar, but wouldn't let him come home with me. I am hoping he'll call, but I am wondering if he will...

he may call....but it will be a booty call most likely

[ltomlinson81]

Why? If I didn't go home with him why would it be a booty call?

I have dated a number of guys I have met in bars, if that is what you are suggesting...

[WhereSpiritsRoam]

I would call as long as there was some interest or spark there. Whether or not she went home with me is irrelevant as long as there is dating potential there. I would actually be more attracted if the girl didn't come home with me because she had a tremendous respect for herself as opposed to just spending the night at my place for some fun.

[laRubiaBonita]

to me "going home with someone" means sleeping with them.

So you are asking, if a girl does not sleep with you, will you call her?

I hope you are not serious! Unless you are a prostitute or somthing!

[ltomlinson81]

I am asking if a girl does NOT go home with you, are you MORE likely to call.

I'm not an idiot, just wondering if it makes a difference to men...

[tiki]

Hopefully he likes you because you DID NOT go home with him.

....if he's the right kind of guy, a gentleman.

[ConfusedInOC]

I'd not go home with her on the first date, that's for sure.

Yes, I would call but would wait a few days.

[alphamale]

Originally posted by tiki
....if he's the right kind of guy, a gentleman.

unfortunately, TIKI, gentlemen don't hang out in bars getting drunk off their a$$ and asking strange women to go home with them.

this dude is after one thing only and it is not a nice home cooked meal!!!

relationships that begin in a bar usually end in a bar.

[tiki]

Originally posted by alphamale
unfortunately, TIKI, gentlemen don't hang out in bars getting drunk off their a$$ and asking strange women to go home with them.

I can definitely see your point. Some people are lost, looking for their place in this world. My husband was once a bar-hopper. He's a gentleman now. Except for in bed.

relationships that begin in a bar usually end in a bar.

Never heard that. But I like it!!

[ltomlinson81]

When you are in your 20s and live in a big city, unfortunately, the bar is where the majority of the social scene is, alphamale. Everyone my age goes to the bar - not just town drunks.

Perspective...

[alphamale]

Originally posted by ltomlinson81
When you are in your 20s

just stop right there. that's all I need to know

[Illusion24]

relationships that begin in a bar usually end in a bar.

DITTO!!...I've seen people hook up in a club and man ithe relationship was bad. Though, I do have to say their are nice people who go to bars I mean forgoddness sake I go to bars and clubs but usually I don't go to "HOOK" up because most guys go for just "A Good Time"...

[laRubiaBonita]

Originally posted by ltomlinson81
When you are in your 20s and live in a big city, unfortunately, the bar is where the majority of the social scene is, alphamale. Everyone my age goes to the bar - not just town drunks.

Perspective...

ewww.... i think your looking from a less than scenic perspective.

sure there are lots of guys in bars....but how many Gems have we actually met in bars?

[alphamale]

Originally posted by laRubiaBonita
sure there are lots of guys in bars....but how many Gems have we actually met in bars?

zero! goes for both sexes too. sounds like a good topic 4 a new thread, LRB