does this mean that HE is having probs lettin go of the past as well?

the_opposite_sex · 4th May 2005, 2:25 PM

yea i've been struggling w/ letting go of him having sex with this girl when we were split up. Dont know why. But anyways, he's pleading for me to let it go and to focus on our relationship NOW. BUT....if he sees her at work *they work together, not in the same dept, but same workplace*, and he says to himself "ugh what was i thinkin??" *some times, not EVERY time*, does this mean he's not lettin it go either?

st8toftheheart · 4th May 2005, 4:50 PM

Either let it go, or let him go.

I'm in the same boat. I could not get over something in her past etc, I decided I could not except it and let her go, because before then it just kept building and building until I became a person I didn't like.

You admit that you were split, so it wasn't cheating. If you don't trust him, then another reason to let go.

This isn;t doign either of you any good.

Sorry, I know you were looking for a 12 step plan to deal with this, I know I was. There isn't one.

Either let it go, or let him go.