[StillHurtin]

Have you ever been to the strippers w/ your H, b4 or after your wedding? I asked H to take me to the female strippers w/ him when he told me about an old strip bar he went to a lot b4 we were 2gether. He told me no, b/c his last GF that he took w/ him got all pi$$ed off b/c the strippers were paying a lot of attention to him. So, it ended there. He went to the strip club (a different one) a lot when were dating and even though I didn't like it I don't remember demanding that he quit. After a month of being engaged my friends and I went out to celebrate our 21st bdays together. So we all hit every bar in town for our free drinks. Well, one of the bars was a female strip club. We sat at the bar and there wasn't very many men there b/c it was early. I seen H up front w/ a few guys. There was a stripper dancing and one of the guys that was sitting w/ H yelled out to the stripper to come dance for him as he was getting married. So she goes over to H and starts dancing in front of him. I was a little ticked but not too bad but when she grabbed a chair, sat on the back of it so her crotch was right in front of H's face I got pi$$ed! She was extremely close. I think I was more mad at the guy that yelled at the stripper to come dance for him b/c I don't think she would of gotten so close to him if he hadn't. H continued to go to the strip club and it was getting to the point where it was almost every night and I did put my foot down. He slowed up on going. Shortly afterwards another guy bought the mall where the club was located and did not want the bar there anymore so it closed down, TG!!! H hasn't gone to the strippers since. It was the only strip club in town but we do have other clubs in different towns near us. He still hasn't gone. If H was still continuing to go the strippers I would be going to see the male strippers. I know he wouldn't like it but ya know, if a H can go to a strip club there is no reason why a W shouldn't go.

[HOTRODDERS WIFE]

It has been years since I went to a male strip club and never to a female club. I just never got anything out of it. I am happy for you that the SC closed down. It would not fly in my house if my H went to the SC every night or even at all. I don't believe married men or women should pay money to be turned on by someone else! If you are single and out with friends for a good time I say go for it! But not if you are married.

~Hotrodders Wife

[New_Wife]

I went to this "male review" thing years ago. I actually thought it was pretty silly. Men with their doohickeys in sequins look so funny to me. And a G-string on a guy - oh Lord No.

I've not been to a female strip club - I just have no desire to see another girl naked. I see them in gym locker rooms and want to hand out towels left and right - So Catholic was I raised!

[Jlmic1]

I have been to a "Gentlemens Club" on two occasions. Both times were because I was out with the girls, and the bars had closed, and the only place that was open was the strip club. I was totally opposed to going, but I didnt drive- But anyway...

Aside from the fact that no married man should be paying another woman for a lapdance, I was appauled and offended at the way those women degrade themselves.

I actually saw a lapdance going on, and the guy's hand was beside him, and on his hand was a BIG FAT WEDDING RING. ugh!

I'm not controlling, or jealous or untrusting- but a strip club is one place that my husband is forbidden to go.. simply because even if he "innocentley" just sits there.. he has still paid money to get into the place and watch another woman get naked and dance in front of him.

And as far as a woman going to a male strip club...APPLES AND ORANGES.
I have been to two of those also, and the men DO NOT get naked or rub their peckers all over you or anything even remotley close to what they do in the women strip clubs. PLUS, women have to pay 10 times more money to even get in the place.

Ahhhh, I feel better-

[secret wife]

Yeah, stripclubs gross me out.... especially if the guys married or in a relationship. You shouldn't be LOOKING at someone else, even if it's just her job. You're paying a chick to rub herself over you like she has done to thousands of perverts in the past.

As for male stripclubs EW NO, the poster who said it's nasty to see a man in a thong is right. SICK! none of those things do it for me.

I hate the fact my man ever did it, it just makes me think SLEAZE and DESPERATE.

It's such a MAN thing to do, they have to be typical, they have to do it to be sheep and conform... even if they don't really like it that much. They have to be cool!

[RecordProducer]

I saw male striptease once and it just doesn't work for me. I can't get turned on because some low-class, uneducated guy shows me his body and expects a tip. I could get hot if someone I like in every aspect touched my hand by accident or gave me the look or wiped the ice cream from my lip with his finger.
Getting aroused for another woman while being married is painful for the wife no matter how "innocent" the guy says it is. If it's so meaningless then why go there and hurt your wife? Doing things while being aware that you'll hurt your spouse means you don't respect them enough. In my opinion love and respect go hand in hand.

[secret wife]

^ excellent post.

My man did it before he even knew me, I don't think he got lap dances when he was with anyone except at a Bachelor party, but he did go when he was with girlfriends, he even lost one because he attended a party at one and wouldn't take her or stay behind for her as she felt uncomfortable.

I agree, i'd get much more turned on by someone I really like accidently brushing up against me than some loser who thinks they're fantastic looking waggling their cock in my face.

Anyway, I don't like muscley oily guys.... and I don't know why men like strippers... most of them are fake looking and not even naturally attractive. They're just willing to take their clothes off.

Sorry if anyone here is a stripper and I offend you but, this is my opinion. I don't know you personally. I say MOST strippers, from what i've seen.

[StillHurtin]

I have no desire to go to the male strippers. Women are worse than the men when it comes to watching them dance. I have been twice, and it did nothing for me. Guys in thongs, no matter how sexy, grosses me out. When I went to the male strippers (b4 I was married) I basically just got a good laugh out of it seeing how wild the women act. I never tipped any of the strippers, I worked too hard for that money.

And I agree, a strip club is no place for a married person to be.