ex girlfriend wants to come back now (kind of long)
Okay here is my situation..my ex girlfriend and i were together for over 2 years. I was in love with this girl, she was my heart, my everything. Then all of a sudden she started being very mean to me, we were constantly arguing. Then she decided to cheat so we broke up. Moving on to a month after we broke up, her sister passed suddenly. I was there for her through the entire process right after it happened. Moving on later on to a couple weeks ago after losing contact with her, she got in contact with one of my friends saying that she misses me and she wants me back. A week ago she took me to dinner and basically told me how she felt about me and that she realizes that there is no one out there for her but me. She did tell me that she have been intimate with another guy, but i have been intimate with other women as well, so i cant get mad at her. But here is the real deal, There is the girl who is VERY interested in me, she treats me better than my ex ever did, but my ex for some reason still has my heart though. I dont know if she wants to come back because she really misses me, or she knows i have someone else, or she wants me to spoil her like i used to and she misses that. I may try to test her and see if this is real but i dont know what to do yet. HELLLP
It will not be a good idea to get with the new girl knowing that your ex still has your heart and wondering what if. I do believe in second chances and if you're willing to risk getting hurt again then I'd say go for it. The reasons for her wanting you back are unclear to you but I wouldn't recommend playing games. You should honestly open up to her and let her know where you stand. I wouldn't mention the other girl to her though. It should be about you and her and no one else.
just curious tic, but suppose ya did get together with this new girl, started getting real involved with her, and then suddenly your ex comes back wanting you. what would u do then?
thats actually the situation now...me and the new girl has been hanging out...she's falling in love with me faster than i am with her because my ex still has a little piece of my heart...that is exactly the situation..now here she comes wanting to come back now.
In a situation like that there is really no advice anyone can give you. Follow your heart and use your head. Do what is going to make you happy. I'm sure you will do the right thing. If you do decide to get back with the ex, don't take her back immediately, take it slow to make sure that it is what you want. Also, atleast she was honest with you and told you she has been intimate with another person.
Ty, whaddya mean take it slow? if u take it too slow u risk having her think u are over her. and although she'll be hurt her friends will tell her to move on and such.... at least that's what i think, lol
Last edited by 60sdreamgirl; 26th April 2005 at 5:59 PM..
hey tic one more thing, how are ya gonna test her? if she keeps coming back to u wont it make her look desperate? or atleast she might feel like she's being desperate and may pull away at first!
so how's the ex supposed to act to show she still really cares and pass the "test"?
she may be wondering what's goin through your head now! were you thinking even of NC too?
ahhh these situations...
Last edited by 60sdreamgirl; 26th April 2005 at 6:00 PM..
The fact that you can even think of leaving a girl that treats you good, for your ex. I would definitly break it off with her. Its not fair to her at all. Plus, think of what she would do if her ex came back, how would you feel to have lost her. Also think, your ex could break your heart, you realize you do love this new girl, but now she is gone and probably wont be back.
Re: ex girlfriend wants to come back now (kind of long)
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Originally posted by tic404
A week ago she took me to dinner and basically told me how she felt about me and that she realizes that there is no one out there for her but me.
No s.h.i.t... because no one else wants her. Think about it.
Stick with the new girl -- she treats you better. The ex got what she deserved.
thats what i was going to do IF i am to take her back...she would not get the things that she used to get when we were together especiallly after what happened. But at the same time...the new girl is really in love with me. I am starting to like her also but I just dont know yet about her but I do know that I still do love my ex though..I dont know what to do.
u got two options:
give this new girl a chance, and risk losing your ex for good;
go back to your ex and give that a second chance, and risk losing the new girl (for good).
it's all about taking chances here and assessing what u value most. what traits did you like in your ex? in the new girl? compare em.
ps- i'm just curious tic, but what would ur ex have to do to prove she's for real to you? to make u feel like "oh man i actually DO want to get back with her"?
Last edited by 60sdreamgirl; 26th April 2005 at 10:50 PM..
i know how you feel man. except i cheated on my ex. i wanted her back badly, but eventually got another girl. now my ex wants me back and i don't know how to deal. you love her, but you also love the new girl who cares for you a lot. it's a tough call. i know it would be real brave to just go back to my ex and see if things work out instead of take the comfortable route and stick with the new girl. because my ex and i really connected. i don't know how much of a connection you had with your ex..
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