[NTB]

am i doomed to think about this girl for the rest of my life?
its been 3 months and i still can't get her out of my head........what is going on with me? i thought at least by now i would be having a lot more good days than bad days.......

[ConfusedInOC]

Originally posted by NTB
am i doomed to think about this girl for the rest of my life?
its been 3 months and i still can't get her out of my head........what is going on with me? i thought at least by now i would be having a lot more good days than bad days.......

Do you value yourself??

You sound like me. I love my Ex more than life itself, but if she doesn't see the value in being with me, then really it's her loss. I want to be with someone who loves and appreciates me for who I am. She didn't do that. And when she stopped giving in our relationship I lost my sense of self worth and tried to make up for lack of love. All a big downhill slide.

Stick with NC. Value yourself. If you don't love and value yourself, no one else will.

[NTB]

yeah i know what you mean i have been doing the NC thing and so far i haven't given in to calling her but i still just can't get her out of my head i swear it's like she moved into my head and is just hanging out there now

[ConfusedInOC]

Originally posted by NTB
yeah i know what you mean i have been doing the NC thing and so far i haven't given in to calling her but i still just can't get her out of my head i swear it's like she moved into my head and is just hanging out there now

Because you lack self confidence and value.

It's been 8 months? It's waaaay past time for you to seek another mate. Honestly, your self of value will not increase until you start dating again.

A good friend of mine told me after my divorce is

" A good way to get over someone is to get under someone"


To this day I thought I would never get over my first ex, having gone through that first gave me a better understanding trying to cope now.

For some of us , me included you "NEVER GET OVER THEM" but you do learn to live with this, its almost like a disease that you cant cure but you can learn to live with it.

Be strong and read the No Contact forums on here as they have helped me alot


"Love is a Drug that Im thinking of"

[NTB]

well i have had plenty of chances of getting "under someone" but i just couldn't do it i felt like i would be cheating on her.......weird huh
this disease is driving me to the point of no return
NC has helped but now i feel like i have a silent movie going on in my head........